First of May

[athene]

Today is the First of May. Last year for Beltane lordaerith and I went to a ritual where we jumped the fire together, then I kissed the May Pole. Today we are just under three weeks from expecting our baby. Sometimes those pagan rituals, they are the powerful.

Today we went shopping for yet more baby things we still needed and for some other stuff. Then we

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[mac_arthur_park]

Yes, yes they are. Congratulations!

I celebrated Beltane by getting my period. :/ However, I also got to hang out with one of my girls and work on baby afghans while having a couple of beers on the patio, so that seemed appropriate.

Wish I could find a local group. I've been a solitary for far too long, and this is the time of year I miss my old group in Asheville the most.

[eliset]

Question for you that's probably stupid...feel free to laugh and point at me. :)

90% of women can expect to get pregnant within a year after discontinuing birth control (source. Based on my very limited (very!) of your timetable, it sounds like you hit that mark pretty close. So why does a religious ritual get the credit, rather than the awesomeness of biology and your own body?

If you had come home, had sex, and immediately gotten pregnant after the ritual, I'd say, "Okay, that makes sense," but given that it was end of August when you got pregnant...why attribute your pregnancy to a ritual?

[made_of_paradox]

My guess would be one of two things:

1) Confirmation bias (which is what I think is going to resonate with you a bit more, but I may be wrong)

2) Need for spirituality. Different people have this to varying degrees.

I've known too many people who tried for a lot longer to get pregnant than a year to totally trust that source, but I know the sample I'm dealing with is biased. Badly. (Infertility can lead to treatments that are more likely to result in multiple births, and as most of the mothers I interact with as a mother have twins or triplets, that's going to totally skew my sample. My own twins were a result of my own genetics rather than any medical intervention. Labor & delivery were another matter entirely.)

[eliset]

Explanation makes sense.

For what its worth, I only know a small handful (like...1-2) people who didn't get pregnant within a year. That said, my sample size is also skewed due to most of the people I know being in their late 20s and early 30s, when it's easier to get pregnant in general.

[made_of_paradox]

One, I myself have spent exactly 3 months of my life trying to get pregnant, and I have 3 kids.

Two, I have recommendations for the best fertility practice to go to in Austin if anyone needs it, and I can find out about Houston or San Antonio fairly easily.

Odd juxtaposition of things. :) But that's how I like it.