This is so stupid.

[netbug009]

Hey, mother of a friend of mine? Could you stop being so passive aggressive and rude towards me? Because it really sucks to find out from your daughter that you dislike me because I'm loud.

Guess what? I can't tell how loud I'm speaking most of the time, and you know it. So instead of quietly despising me, never letting me come over, and taking any

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[mottmon]

It appears you are suffering from a case of surrounded by assholes.

There's not much you can do about it, if that's their gripe about you then they kinda you know, need to fark off, honestly... I would personally, and intentionally, shout at her about the issue, but, eh, that's not the best idea, honestly, try and talk it out with her instead of whining about her behind her back here C:

[fanfic_addict01]

I have problems with tone, I cant tell it and when I do I cant tell why. Like if its my mom, I can tell if she's upset but not if she's mad or sad or if its at me. Also, apparently I never say things seriously so when I say dont do something because its a trigger for me people think I'm just joking... and then I get sick for a week.

[embryogirl]

I have the same problem as you except the opposite: I speak very softly and don't realise I am too quiet to be heard.

Some people have stopped bothering to talk with me because they find it hard to understand me. Wouldn't it just be easier to tell me to speak up? I'm not doing it on purpose and don't even realise!

[for_u_alone]

Me too.

[neophyte_13]

I've got the same problem and I've had an employer try to raise disciplinary procedures over it... Good luck getting through to her.

[falconwhitaker]

I do that, too. For years my parents would tell me to "stop shouting" and I'd be all, like, "I'M NOT SHOUTING" because I didn't realise how much my voice had escalated. At least they stopped doing it once I got my diagnosis and just kindly remind me my voice is getting too loud, whereupon I'm all, like, "Oops, sorry ^^;;"

But yeah, that lady sounds like a passive-aggressive bitch :/ Any way you can talk to her and explain (possibly multiple times) that your inability to register the volume of your voice correctly is part of your disability, that you're sorry it upsets her but you don't do it on purpose, and that if you're getting too loud, you won't be offended if she politely asks you to turn down the volume?

[urocyon_c]

Sounds too familiar, with the "stop shouting". And it only just occurred to me, reading the OP, that this might well be an ASD thing.

Yeah, it certainly sounds like the mother's behavior is pretty darned disabling. Shame when it's a friend's parent acting like that; sounds like it would be hard to avoid her completely. I'm not sure how much good explaining would do if she's behaving that passive-aggressively, but it's worth a try. If she doesn't respond as you'd hope (as in, stop acting like that), you'll know you've done your best and it's totally on her.