"5 signs he's into you," uh-oh...

[truegrit]

So this is another post about a dating-related fluff piece; the kind of thing that's always aimed at a sort of dead-center mainstream, and will always ring less and less true, the closer you get to the fringes. This piece is called "5 Signs He's Into You" - it's about people on dates. The article can be found here, but to sum it up sans writerly

Comments

articles written for the masses

[froganon]

I view that article as being stuff written for the masses. I have come to the conclusion that my mate is also on the spectrum. And yet we found each other.

I don't think the codes are really that simple. I think sometimes educators make them that way (to wit all of those behavior mod programs involving eye contact and those social skills groups). I also think popular press dumbs down everything in order to reassure the masses that the masses are doing it correctly. That sort of thing has always rang false to me.

I remember a cousin reading "Cosmopolitan" magazine-- she always called it "Cosmo." She was very into the multiple choice sex tests and relationships tests in there along with all the other fluff. I was off in another world so to speak, a world where women didn't wear high heels which were totally impractical. A more direct world where people weren't into hiding their intentions.

spike

[sevenjades]

I bet those signals that show you're interested in someone also apply if you're frieindly with them, or heavily into a conversation you're having with them, or invested in a topic at hand, or going off on an obsession you have.... I sometimes have to assure people that my motivations are platonic and not to confuse exuberance with other intentions. That's when I remember that, no, Sevenjades, not everyone finds His Dark Materials as interesting as you do and you really should back off. :)

[mysticsong]

Great set of books.. :)

[remedialstalker]

Yeah, those lists of signals should come w/ warnings that there are degrees of subtlety. Then examples should be given. How much closer, how much softer etc.

[velvetgunpowder]

I don't think human social interaction is ever simple but as a female I know that all the described postures are read by me that way even if I myself don't act accordingly when I'm interested in a person.

[arkityp]

on a more positive note, i'm glad articles like this exist. more hot aspie men for me!

[dearmisterecho]

I always like to think it really is that simple, but in reality it isn't. I have found people who are not interested in me acting like they were "into me," as the article puts it, but they actually weren't - they were just very flirty/friendly people. I've also had things occur the other way around - very distant people, I find out, are actually crazy about me and are really round-about with showing their affection (it took 6 months for one of my good friends to admit he was the one who put a rose on my car last winter).