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ryouji_kaji in asperger

How To Tell My Mom

Jul 04, 2008 18:32

I was diagnosed with Asperger's this past March after waiting a year to be seen at my university. I never told my family about my plans and I haven't told them since I got the diagnosis. I never gave telling my family much thought until I came home for the summer. As I learn more about myself and how Asperger's has effected it, the more I've begun ( Read more... )

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hello froganon July 5 2008, 01:27:16 UTC

Find a webpage, newspaper article, or book related to asperger's and ask her what she thinks of that? Then based on her reaction, you can proceed from there.

Nothing else comes to brain at the moment.

spike

scratchmittens July 5 2008, 04:07:03 UTC

You are still the same person who is close to your mother. You are still the same person she loves. If you are truly close, then she will have noticed your symptoms already and it will just be another adjective that describes the person she loves. You haven't let her down or done anything wrong by having this or being diagnosed with it.
I don't know you or her, so I can't give any advice on how to tell her or deal with her reaction, but as a mother, I cannot imagine letting a diagnosis come between me and my kids. I hope your mother feels the same.

zhekai July 5 2008, 04:52:19 UTC

Since she knows about your anxiety you could raise asperger's in that context. eg 'i've found out where the anxiety comes from, and it's due in part to the way my mind processes information, and i think i can understand it a lot better now ( ... )

mercurygrrl July 5 2008, 09:30:39 UTC

I can't offer much to help, because I have no idea how to tell my mom either. In contrast to your situation, she has no idea I've been struggling with depression as a result of the AS. I wish you all the best in finding a way :)

intralimina July 5 2008, 17:07:58 UTC

I wrote my parents a letter and mailed it to them. I said in the letter that I'd be OK with spoken communication about the topic after they read the letter. The nice things for me about the letter were that I got to really communicate properly what I wanted / needed to communicate, I didn't have to deal with the overloading emotional charge of my parent's first hearing "The A Word," and all of us had time to think about what was going on before anyone took action. This worked or me because I already had a long-time habit of writing difficult subject matter instead of saying it so my parents didn't think it was weird; not sure if the same strategy would work for others though.