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[awaygoblin]

Is it BAD BAD BAD to sleep next to someone else's spouse, or only "not good"? And only sleep?

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[incognita]

This mostly depends on the circumstances involved.

Was there another sleeping location available? I would be a little annoyed that they chose to sleep in the same bed. But the fact that there was no hanky-panky and they honestly were just sleeping... that would help me get over my annoyed... but my boyfriend and I would be having a conversation about boundaries and comfort levels right quick.

[awaygoblin]

I said to myself he might Hendrix in the night (he was passed out mostly) but started hugging me in the morning, saying how peacefully he'd slept. I don't think he would cheat on his wife, but if he would, it wouldn't be with me; at least I wouldn't do that.

[awaygoblin]

Yes there was another location available, but like I said, I wanted to make sure he doesn't start gurgling vomit or something :/

[incognita]

Sometimes it's nice just to have a warm body next to you, even if you're not married to/dating the person and nothing sexy happens.

Do you know his wife? I'm the kind that would tell her "hey, this thing happened. I wanted to let you know about it now so that if it comes up in the future it doesn't look like we were hiding something."

[psykoinsane]

Depends on the circumstances I guess but for the most part I wouldn't care. If it were like a twin bed and there are other places to sleep maybe not good, but like sharing a hotel room and the room has one bed sure whatever. It is just sleeping.

[romeo_golf]

For me... No. Not at all. My ex spooned his ex while we were together and quite frankly it didn't bother me. His ex was hot, I would too.

[awaygoblin]

Well you're open-minded :)

[romeo_golf]

I like to think so.

[awaygoblin]

good X)

[a_pawson]

Depends on the people involved. If you are just sleeping then I know quite a few people who wouldn't care, but equally I know people who would have a major issue with it. I've certainly done it, usually after a party when crash space is limited, but also when hillwalking when you sleep next to each other in the tent for warmth.

[myarra]

It would depend on the intentions of the people sleeping together.

[awaygoblin]

They're above, along this chain...

[myarra]

Hm, when the wife already hates you, I'd think it's a bad idea. Not a bad thing to do necessarily, but definitely not a good idea.
If my boyfriend slept in the same bed/cuddled with one of his friends, I don't think I'd have a problem with it, because I like and trust all of his friends. If there's no bed available (he's tall so sleeping on a couch can be uncomfy), yeah, of course, share the bed. But I would want him to let me know. But I would be bothered if he just wanted a warm body next to him and purposely sought out a friend to sleep next to for that reason.

[awaygoblin]

I was a bit concerned he might drown in his vomit, so... There's a longer story behind this. I'm just trying to be a friend & help him.