therapy questions;

[evasearchin]

me texting ex-therapist yesterday in a fit of anger;

"there was no point to therapy; the only practical advice you ever gave me the entire year was don't be on your own when you feel crap, ha ha, well I don't actually have anyone apart from a girl who doesn't feel enough friendship for me once you take away the fancying me for three years part, so

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[owlgardens]

Probably shouldn't expect a reply.

But therapy does have a point and CAN work, but you aren't always going to find the right therapist for you the first time around. I would definitely suggest/recommend that you try a new therapist and see if you have better luck (and keep in mind that you might have to try a few more times before finding the right therapist for you).

[cozmic_oceanz]

This

[suibhne_geilt]

The old joke, back in my psych major days, was:

Q. How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?

A. Only one. But the light bulb has to want to change.

In other words, as long as you think that therapy was absolutely nothing but a big waste of your time, you're going to get nothing out of it. You have to really want to break out of the habits/thought processes/behaviors that are holding you back, and you have to be committed to working with a therapist (and really, you may have to try out a couple to find one that clicks with you).

[cozmic_oceanz]

Thissss

[1_2_suckerpunch]

Yep.

[kjerlandsen]

I'm surprised your therapist gave you their cell number.

[on_my_heart]

MTE, I've had a lot of therapists and I've never had a personal number/texted any of them!

[outlining]

It's typically to be used in cases of emergency outside of normal business hours. Key word is emergency. Like, suicidal or having a serious breakdown. Not feeling angry and vengeful. With that said, I avoid giving out my personal contact information. Creates too many boundary issues.

[peculiar_being]

That's strange. I used to call my therapist all the time when I was in some sort of emotional trouble and she was fine with it,

[dawgdays]

[To answer your actual question

[anfractuousity]

I'm fascinated that you have your therapist's cellphone number. Is that how things work, these days? I feel so old fashioned. xD

You probably won't get a reply, and you probably do need therapy, since it sounds like whatever issues you were going to therapy to help weren't solved. I'd look into finding a different therapist if that one wasn't working out for you. You have to find a therapist you click with to get any real work done.

[anthylorrel]

Right? That's the first thing I thought too. I was like "Texting.... the therapist?" *baffled*

[anfractuousity]

I was like "WOAH, isn't that like a major boundary being erased??" O_O

[anthylorrel]

Yes! That's exactly why it baffled me! Then again, I've known a lot of really unstable people, one of which was actually in love with her therapist. It was quite awkward.