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[wherearethebees]

Are you the type of person who believes, in friendships, there are lines that can be crossed and not uncrossed?

If so, why so?

If not, why not?

Comments

[taleofaredhead]

Yes, I do believe lines can be crossed and not be un-crossed.

I had to "break up" with a friend a year or so ago because he was interested in me and obviously did not respect my relationship with my boyfriend. It got to the point where he bitched me out about my relationship after I made it clear that I wasn't interested. Once you say something as nasty as what he said to me, I don't think you can "undo" that. Even if he came along years later and was no longer interested and seemed to have changed, I'm not sure I would ever really forget how much of an asshole he was. So I think similar situations can occur that make it not possible to un-cross those lines.

[wherearethebees]

I am in a similar web; that's why I wanted to ask this in this community. Folks here are often so strict about their social rules and guidelines and, er, lines in general. . . I've given and received some pieces of information in the past week or so that are the sorts of things that people here would respond to with "Cut that person out," or "I couldn't/wouldn't get over that."

It's strange to be that aware of that tendency in so many people and to be feeling like I. . . somehow don't really care? Or am uninterested in changing my behavior based on whatever I've learned. .? PERHAPS I AM A SOCIOPATH

[bubblebobble]

Yes. Both my husband and myself have lost friends over boundaries. He had a friend who gave my husband shit and talked shit about me because friend was single and my husband liked to spend time with me. I also wont associate myself with people if I find out they abuse animals or are just assholes to them (like the couple we were friends with who just gave up their dogs because they were too much work when they got pregnant. Didnt care about giving them up or who they went to. didnt even try to make it work. People who do that are forever judged in my eyes)

[vivid_corners]

Absolutely. Friends, family, lovers- no one gets to behave any way they please without consequences. I grew up in an abusive household, most people I've been close to have a mental illness- there's a lot that goes into how I form my boundaries and I'm clear about that.

[mrflagg]

fucking a buddies exwife. This is a line I would not cross