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[joospjos]

Do you think "being classy" is an overrated or underrated quality to have?

J loves it when you explain & Serious and non-serious answers welcome. :)

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[methorphan]

completely overrated. i pretty much hate that word. i guess that i just don't like being told that i'm being "unladylike" and need to be more classy. i don't think i know anybody who likes to be told that. it shouldn't be any sort of standard, unless a specific event calls for it. i do what i want!

[cat_the_knife]

It's overrated. Seriously, all labels like that are overrated. I think people should spend less energy trying to fit all these damned labels society says we should care about and more time just being sincere, genuine versions of themselves. God knows I wouldn't hate this world and 95% of the people in it so much if they did.

classy =/= stuck up

[ms_nobizit]

I think its underrated, but see it as learned/cultivated behavior. People's interest in it seems to be disintegrating. It's valuable because it builds a positive self image and facilitates better rapport in social situations.

"Being classy" is not about snobbery; it's about carrying oneself with style and dignity. It's about trying to be one's best and treating people with respect (and taking the high road if someone is unable to return it). A classy person is assertive, but does not put people down. Self-care, being accountable and taking responsibility for one's actions are important, as is the desire and drive to improve.

Ghod, I sound like my grandmother (who was one of the classiest people I evah met).

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Re: classy =/= stuck up

[mofoburrell]

This sums up most of what I dislike about class. It is indeed about carrying oneself with style and dignity, a single rigid style and dignity that everyone must arbitrarily conform to.

Re: classy =/= stuck up

[ms_nobizit]

Hmm :/ I don't think there's a standard style to carry oneself, outside of some formalities (table manners for instance); we're all unique. I don't ascribe it to having Things or projecting an air or image other than what is true to the individual.

Which single rigid style are you referring to?

I don't see "class"/manners as being dictated down but more so a socially created and negotiated kind of aid to assist with social interactions; a correlation coefficient to indicate a level of conflict with societally accepted behavior.

I perceive it as just more so looking after oneself and the Golden Rule in a nutshell. Maybe when I think of "class" I'm really thinking more about "graciousness" (courtesy, consideration).

Re: classy =/= stuck up

[mofoburrell]

Manners is a big one, also things you're supposed to talk about or not talk about in polite company irks me :\

[human_remain]

100,000,010% underrated, dahhhhling!

[bubblebobble]

elegance is learrrrrrrrned MUH FRIEND!

[eris]

I'm fucking classy! I don't think I'm underrated.