Poly Marriage

[ashley_y]

How's this poly marriage thing supposed to work, anyway? Is it transitive? If A & B are married, and B & C are married, does that mean A & C are married?

Comments

[zanfur]

Short answer: However the involved parties want it to work. :-)

[ashley_y]

NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Marriage is more than just a private arrangement, because we already have those. Marriage is something recognised by the community.

[mlerules]

So do it (likely more like a hand-fasting as bigamy 'n' related such-likes remain illegal) as a communal event w/friends and family looking on and voicing/showing/demonstrating approval (speak know or forever hold your peace).

[zanfur]

It's good enough for me, and it's good enough for most those that practice it. If it's not good enough for you, well, you must want it to work differently. ;-)

[mlerules]

Nope. You can make whatever arrangements you like amongst all concerned (in the r-ship), but regular maths rules don't apply. Where things get really tricky is upon partial breakup. If A & B & C are all married together, then A & C split up, what does that do to A&B and B&C? Eep!

[mokie_sassafras]

I'd say possibly, but not necessarily. A&C are in the middle of the Venn diagram.

[ashley_y]

There's no-one to ask, though, because there's no-one who is actually in a poly marriage, at least here in the U.S. I'm going to post again about this to clarify what I meant.