Is this denial?

[arwen_0926]

I keep saying that I'm not ready to have this baby yet, but why is that, really? Maybe because my everyday life is so different now than it was when I was expecting Quinn. And my last pregnancy is all I have to compare this one to! At this point last time, I was still working full time (though 1/2 time from home), and I was wrapping up all the

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[sabriel_0405]

My guess is that most women having their second child feel much as you do. As you said, you can't take a vacation from Quinn, so the excitement level is different. This isn't your first child and you do have an idea of what to expect. This will be different, of course, but yet, it won't be.

I don't think you're living each day as if pregnancy is permanent insomuch as you are just living each day. And here's where it is the first time - you don't know what two will be like. Besides lots of work. It isn't denial, exactly, it's just that you can't stop life once you already have one. I told you when my friend Adrienne had her first one, she spent a week in bed being catered to. With the second, she doesn't remember sleeping because she still had child #1. And yet, she wasn't as tired. She didn't have time.

As you said, with Quinn, you called the doctor for everything (as you were supposed to) but with number two it's easier to be laid back. The baby will arrive on schedule (its).

[arwen_0926]

I sure hope I'm not as tired! :) It would be nice if I could actually sleep a little bit now, but I guess I'm already getting used to being awake at all hours of the night. Of course being awake and doing whatever I want is a lot different than being awake and catering to (at least) one other person's needs, but I'm sure that I'll manage. I just hope that Eric is as wonderful this time around as last time (which I don't have a reason to doubt, just irrational fears!), because he is so much better in the middle of the night than I am. We often found our preferences for opposite sleep schedules very frustrating in our marriage, but it really worked out well when a baby was added to the mix. :) But now we're both adjusted to slightly different schedules (he actually goes to be before midnight sometimes and I like to sleep until at least 7!), so we'll have to see what happens this time around.

[zucchini_bread]

Denial is a powerful thing! =) I kind of felt that "limbo" before Nic was born. We had so much to do before he got here...but deep down I felt that we had forever...like I would be pregnant forever. I attributed part of it to the fact that I was so sick I couldn't see the end that was in sight. I paid attention to every little twinge but I never felt contractions until the 39 hours before he was born.

Regardless of what you have ready and not ready, you will, VERY SOON, have another beautiful baby and I'm so excited for you! Even though Nic has colic and is soooo impossible sometimes (okay, a lot of the time), I am envious of you and can't wait until we have another sprog. Try to take it easy and rest up (hah!) while you can and good luck.

[arwen_0926]

The envy was at its worst for me about a year ago when just about everyone I knew who had a child Quinn's age was pregnant with another one. Oooh, it was awful! I kept trying to remind myself that they were all older than me (by at least a couple years, actually) and that we had time, lots of time. We actually weren't even TTC at that point - we were still in the "discussion" stage of "if and when." It was actually just about as tough a discussion period as last time, just for different reasons.

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts. I'm actually feeling very well (which I feel bad admitting to those of you who were sick during your pregnancies), so I shouldn't really have anything to complain about at this point. It would be nice to actually sleep through the night again, but I know that's not happening for a while! At least I can look forward to not having to run to the bathroom every 5 seconds! :)