It was really fun to meet you, and the similarities between you and James was nice confirmation that our relationship may look straight, but isn't quite :-). James thought the coffee at the Lake Matheson cafe was so good he went back the next morning, and I also had one of their hot chocolates - not quite so stunning flavour-wise, but very impressive in presentation (there should be photos).
It's weird, given how I have problems being around people, how bad I am at really noticing and doing the right thing by myself. I think I'm getting a bit better, but it feels like the world is beating me with a clue-by-four.
I'm glad I'm not alone. (Not that I really expected to be, but it's a matter of how rare.) I'm pretty sure in my case it has something to do with family gatherings as a child and not being allowed to leave. I think there's also some school trauma, but that's probably for a counsellor, or at least appropriately-filtered post.
I don't feel I have much control over the pulling back so it would often be when I don't mean to, because I'm usually better off putting just a bit more effort in (and then consciously deciding to leave if necessary, for example).
I wasn't entirely sure how to direct the New/Old Relationship Energy panel, or tie it all together. ORE is more happy for me and something I really enjoy hearing about in other people's relationships. I wasn't really prepared to frame NRE in any really useful way. So the content may have reflected my biases as well. ;)
Managing intensity and the amount of time available at APCs is always a problem. It's charged material and there are lots of people who you have connections with but have never met in person before. I find that I have to disappear a fair bit -- this one less than most others so far. Most people I've spoken to said that same thing, so I think it's common. In some ways, it was a microcosm of our NZ vacation overall in that the only way to reduce stress was to admit that the time available was insufficient to really achieve all the goals one might possibly have, and the best you could do was to be happy, maintain yourself as needed and enjoy what time you did have.
I think the ORE/NRE panel worked just fine; at least as well as the communication panel :-).
It's definitely been interesting meeting people at the con and then having them dissect what was happening inside afterwards. I think I guessed you needed some quiet time based on stuff you've posted in the past about other alt.polycons. Otherwise, I wouldn't have had a clue - you present a very together exterior.
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It's weird, given how I have problems being around people, how bad I am at really noticing and doing the right thing by myself. I think I'm getting a bit better, but it feels like the world is beating me with a clue-by-four.
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I am the same way.
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Managing intensity and the amount of time available at APCs is always a problem. It's charged material and there are lots of people who you have connections with but have never met in person before. I find that I have to disappear a fair bit -- this one less than most others so far. Most people I've spoken to said that same thing, so I think it's common. In some ways, it was a microcosm of our NZ vacation overall in that the only way to reduce stress was to admit that the time available was insufficient to really achieve all the goals one might possibly have, and the best you could do was to be happy, maintain yourself as needed and enjoy what time you did have.
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It's definitely been interesting meeting people at the con and then having them dissect what was happening inside afterwards. I think I guessed you needed some quiet time based on stuff you've posted in the past about other alt.polycons. Otherwise, I wouldn't have had a clue - you present a very together exterior.
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