Online friens are cool (of course we are) and I often think we really care for each other, so that is important. But offline social life is, too. It's maybe like it is with working and free time - we have to find a way to include all of it in our lives. :) *huggles*
I know that Tati, but the thing is that for some reason, I never had more than one or two friends. At high school I didnt have any... Now I have 2 who aren't single and I want them to spend their free time with their other half.
Agh, I know this feeling. Most (actually all close) friends of me spend their times with their other half, too, now. It doesn't bother me as long I can join, but things like talking about great holidays trips (just with the other half, though) or watching movies in cinema (...) sometimes make me sad. :(
I was always very communicative so never had probs to meet up with people, but I've recognized it's harder to get to know new good friends now by an higher age. Meh.
Couples have to be able to spend time with other people; that's something that's often forgotten, but essential to any relationship.
It's easier to find people online, but I'd argue that it's much more valuable to take time to cultivate the relationships that you have offline. These are more immediate and real (in a sense). Try branching out a little with people you already know - go for coffee or lunch with work colleagues. It may be easy to experience a sense of belonging in an online community, but it lacks the social aspect of actually meeting people (usually). SPending time with people in person is vital to friendship.
Second that. You will most probably also get to know new people by cultivation the already known relationships. I know it's hard to start making friends, but it will work. You're such a cute and smart person - real life people shouldn't miss you! :)
You are both so right... I know all this... But the fact is that I dont feel that good about myself. This results in my hesitating to call anyone, because I feel that I will be a burden or a nuisance. My two best friends Al are 2 of my colleagues. They aren't the "going out" types, and even if I do go out with them, I either meet other couples or people that are totally different from me and probably dont want to see me again cause they find me stupid, silent and shy. Cause this is how I am when I meet people for the first time... These two colleagues - we spend more than 10 hours a day together and we are pretty close. But just because of the quantity of time we spend together at work, I dont want to take any more time from them.
Hm, I see your problem. Confidence, Dora! I'm aware that people may seem to be completely different online and offline, but just can't be THAT different. Don't tell me you're a grumpy pixie at home. ;) *huggles*
I know it's an 'common' advice, but maybe a hobby will work. It's not easy to make a first step, but it's worth it. Oh...and it's not that we don't want you here of course. Lol. It's just I guess you would feel happier about yourself, too, if you try out. So... I will stop bother you with it (for now *evil*), just thought it may help to talk about it. :)
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Online friens are cool (of course we are) and I often think we really care for each other, so that is important. But offline social life is, too. It's maybe like it is with working and free time - we have to find a way to include all of it in our lives. :) *huggles*
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What did the fish say when it swam into the wall?
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I know that Tati, but the thing is that for some reason, I never had more than one or two friends. At high school I didnt have any... Now I have 2 who aren't single and I want them to spend their free time with their other half.
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I was always very communicative so never had probs to meet up with people, but I've recognized it's harder to get to know new good friends now by an higher age. Meh.
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It's easier to find people online, but I'd argue that it's much more valuable to take time to cultivate the relationships that you have offline. These are more immediate and real (in a sense). Try branching out a little with people you already know - go for coffee or lunch with work colleagues. It may be easy to experience a sense of belonging in an online community, but it lacks the social aspect of actually meeting people (usually). SPending time with people in person is vital to friendship.
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My two best friends Al are 2 of my colleagues. They aren't the "going out" types, and even if I do go out with them, I either meet other couples or people that are totally different from me and probably dont want to see me again cause they find me stupid, silent and shy. Cause this is how I am when I meet people for the first time...
These two colleagues - we spend more than 10 hours a day together and we are pretty close. But just because of the quantity of time we spend together at work, I dont want to take any more time from them.
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I know it's an 'common' advice, but maybe a hobby will work. It's not easy to make a first step, but it's worth it. Oh...and it's not that we don't want you here of course. Lol. It's just I guess you would feel happier about yourself, too, if you try out.
So... I will stop bother you with it (for now *evil*), just thought it may help to talk about it. :)
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