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[antithestasia]

Dear Master,
It is time for a change in perspective. You asked me to talk about pain, and my feelings on the matter. I will be frank -- part of the reason it has taken me so long to respond is that I honestly don't know how I feel or why I feel the way I do. For someone who is often praised as being very self-aware, I am at a total loss, and it is

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[dgchessman2]

Though I claim not to know of your situation.... and especially not of the background of it.

But what you describe seems be more of a warrior spirit. That pain/pleasure feedback that fuels athletes... the idea that the pain is simply a reflection of progress, and a necessary part of growing.

And honestly, it's oftentimes a pleasurable process as well.

I don't know if that is agreeable with your outlook, or perhaps just my own spin on things... that was simply the impression I got from what you wrote.

And in my odd little world, it makes a LOT of sense....

*leaves a cookie behind for you, and scampers off*

blogtastic indeedy

[cbagan89]

You know I cant relate very well...

I dont think I can say anything to provoke a thought that might help you become less infuriated..

The way I understand a masochist, and therefore a sadist, is that psycologically they are wired differently from someone-- ie. getting beaten from a sexual figure causes pleasure in reaction to pain. EVEN if you arent wired that way, one is bound to experiment to the smallest extent with a willing partner at some point... it might even be an enjoyable occasion.. Ive been there..

I think you can fall in love with anyone, even if they delight in hurting you.. Their sense of pleasure shouldnt affect that.. Try to fall in love with someone because of your interaction outside the bedroom, then let your preferences in bed further define your relationship..

Love first, BDSM love-making second?

PS. Thanks for showing me livejournal, Ive never heard of it :]

[shadowalchemy]

While I myself never could get into the giving/receiving pain for pleasure fully, I can still understand it in a disconnected stand point, especially recently coming out of a D/s relationship.

More so, using Book's quote from "War Stories" really does sum it all up :)