Master and Submissive, Part Three; Responsibilities and Requests

[antithestasia]

Dear Master

Comments

[thelastmehina]

You are a beautiful, intelligent woman and have every right to be treated with respect by the people you love and who claim to love you back.

The problem that a lot of younger kinksters have is that they think the power dynamic is "on" all the time, especially when you blend romance with D/s. And that's not it at all. For a D/s relationship to work, you must always recognize that it's a partnership between equals. In truth, you are no one's inferior - though you might act like that at times, it's all part of the power exchange fantasy. A good top needs to recognize that the submission of his pet/slave/bottom is a gift from one equal to another, and respect that choice accordingly.

[antithestasia]

Thank you, My dear. As his student, I sometimes feel patronized, and this is a part of the dynamic I am still getting comfortable with.

[michaelocalypse]

Well said. The best advice I ever received RE: kink was that when someone is being dommed, that person is actually completely in control. All the rules, all the safe words give the sub veto power over anything.
Point being, you're a sweetie, and he should only get to spank you or yell at you if he asks very very nicely.
That being said, always remember to live every damn moment for a purpose, this isn't prep for real life, this is it.

<3

[antithestasia]

This is very true. He respects all of My safewords, always, but he also pushes Me, and I do not always respond well to push.