One thing I find especially evident in younger kids is the inability to understand nonverbal cues, like a dirty look. I also find that a lot of younger kids don't realize that the snotty, whiny expressions are not going to win them any sort of respect or help unless the person helping feels sorry for them. It's bad enough that I had to explain the value of hard work to kids who were three years younger than me (I'm 23) in the past year, or why jobs that aren't part of the tipped service industry generally don't require tips for mediocre service.
Not that my own generation is much better sometimes... I find that there are fewer and fewer people out there in my age range that had an "old fashioned" upbringing that included some lessons in common sense and manners.
That interesting because while I worked my ass off in school, I am not out in the "real world" and have become a slacker. I'm also 23 and find it nearly impossible to work hard and focus on something I don't really care about for 8 hours a day. Even while in school, I could work hard at my part-time retail job becasue there were only 3 hour shifts. So, heh, maybe I could use a lecture on hard work cause I really don't see the point in putting forth any more effort than necessary in order to get the job done and get my paycheck.
Well, it was a sucky job, I admit. But some of these people were expecting tips when they were 1) making above minimum wage, 2) working a job that wasn't hard, and 3) not quite getting the job done properly. There's something to be said about not doing the job right in foodservice, where a job not done well can equal food poisoning.
Would you still ask for tips at a job where you made sandwiches for 50 cents above minimum wage and didn't do much else? If you did, would you still not understand that tips aren't mandatory for those who don't have to depend on tips to make minimum wage or better? Yes, the job sucked, and yes, we probably deserved to be paid more for our work, but we didn't deserve tips just because we had to do our jobs.
This just seems like another way to justify why adults consider children/teens rude and disrespectful. Teen society has changed drastically over the past 100 years or so, and it always has seemed to me that one generation always looks down on younger generations for one thing or another.
I'm 18, I havent ever taken a college anthro/sociology course, so my opinion might mean nothing, but I think all of those instances mentioned (changing in public, listening to an ipod while working, showing up at a college interview like that) are really disrespectful and unclassy and not anything I would do... and I am addicted to my ipod/cell phone/computer like most people my age, so I dont see the correlation between our 'technocratic' society and certain cases of young adults behaving rudely.
I'm sure my parents did things that were considered rude and rebellious towards their elders when they were younger, the definition of "rude" has changed but that's not a new concept.
I'm also 18 and haven't taken college anthro/sociology... but I completely agree.
None of the things listed above were "okay" for me. Honestly, in such cases, I think the problem lies more in individuals than in the general whole.
"She said, 'You're going to have to work twice as hard now to garner respect,' " says Krell, who will be a freshman in film studies at New York University this fall.
He says he's not sure how much respect he lost with his blue hair, but he acknowledges, "I probably didn't gain much, either."Why is that? Why should you have to work twice as hard just because you look different? Personally, I don't understand the problem with having unnatural hair colors and the like. I feel that the closed-mindedness of automatically disrespecting someone because of their hair color/tattoos/piercings is an indication of a huge fault in the generations before us and their inability to accept/be comfortable around "different" people
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Re: Wet Hairi_like_paintJune 21 2006, 16:27:26 UTC
That's true... I was thinking about that when I wrote my comment. The initial thought I had in my head was of someone I've seen personally with wet hair who looks zoned out every morning and really messy. But that probably doesn't have anything to do with the hair, just the person in general, haha.
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Not that my own generation is much better sometimes... I find that there are fewer and fewer people out there in my age range that had an "old fashioned" upbringing that included some lessons in common sense and manners.
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Would you still ask for tips at a job where you made sandwiches for 50 cents above minimum wage and didn't do much else? If you did, would you still not understand that tips aren't mandatory for those who don't have to depend on tips to make minimum wage or better? Yes, the job sucked, and yes, we probably deserved to be paid more for our work, but we didn't deserve tips just because we had to do our jobs.
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I'm 18, I havent ever taken a college anthro/sociology course, so my opinion might mean nothing, but I think all of those instances mentioned (changing in public, listening to an ipod while working, showing up at a college interview like that) are really disrespectful and unclassy and not anything I would do... and I am addicted to my ipod/cell phone/computer like most people my age, so I dont see the correlation between our 'technocratic' society and certain cases of young adults behaving rudely.
I'm sure my parents did things that were considered rude and rebellious towards their elders when they were younger, the definition of "rude" has changed but that's not a new concept.
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None of the things listed above were "okay" for me. Honestly, in such cases, I think the problem lies more in individuals than in the general whole.
"She said, 'You're going to have to work twice as hard now to garner respect,' " says Krell, who will be a freshman in film studies at New York University this fall.
He says he's not sure how much respect he lost with his blue hair, but he acknowledges, "I probably didn't gain much, either."Why is that? Why should you have to work twice as hard just because you look different? Personally, I don't understand the problem with having unnatural hair colors and the like. I feel that the closed-mindedness of automatically disrespecting someone because of their hair color/tattoos/piercings is an indication of a huge fault in the generations before us and their inability to accept/be comfortable around "different" people ( ... )
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The hair will dry with time -- why does wet equal sloppy?
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Thanks for pointing that out. You're right.
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