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[anspaug4]

I really wish I could express my thoughts better, and actually clarify what it is I believe without resorting to platitudes and cliches. I'm no good at debating because I have trouble thinking on my feet, and an even worse time presenting a cogent argument. I tend to resort to emotional tactics because I get so flustered, and I'm not happy about

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[kumaraka]

I completely understand. The best way to overcome this is to practice controlling the tone of a discussion. If you get good at keeping the discussion conversational/educational rather than competetive, you will never EVER come off stupid. You will come off as someone who is intelligent and curious. I guaruntee it.

So you say things like, "I can see what you're saying actually.. but what about people who say such-n-such counterpoint?" or "The thing that I don't get about such-n-such view point is how does it account for such-n-such.."

etc etc

[atdt1991]

I really, truly enjoy talking with someone who makes an effort to relate to my point of view, and I find it makes it even easier for me to see theirs. The best conversations come from disagreeing but relating, and often (if you have the right debate partner), you both come out learning something new.

The trick -is- to feel comfortable admitting when you just don't know a particular detail, and letting go of the cliches.

And yes, honesty like that is not a prized feature of political life.