Comments | anjenue: [real friends, real life]

anjenue

[real friends, real life]

Mar 16, 2006 14:03

leogryffin made a (flocked) post earlier about the nature of online communication and how some people Just. Don't. Get it., and I was going to post a comment to her but er...it got sort of long. And besides that, it's something I've been thinking a lot about lately. So I thought I would post it here instead.

( On fandom, LJ, and online friendships )

me:self, friends

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herlifeisbroken March 16 2006, 19:25:49 UTC

OMG I'M REAL. DON'T THEY KNOW ME?! *giggle*

Wow, honestly. This post is very illustrative of how I feel. While I have some RL friends, invariably I sustain RL friendships far better when those RL people are also online. For example, the last two call centers I worked at - I know I wouldn't have been able to sustain relationships with the people there that I liked very much if we hadn't kept in touch by texting or LJ or IM. And that may be a failing in me, but at the same time, this is the space where I have my comfort zone. This is where I gather the people I love around me.

Course now I have to flock every blinkin thing because I'm worried my husband will read it, which bothers me, but eh.

This post is awesome, Anj. Can I link it into my OP just to make sure people come read it? You expressed eloquently how I feel about my online friendships, and why my friendships made and/or sustained online continue to be the ones that affect my life in powerful ways.

anjenue March 16 2006, 19:29:09 UTC

I think the most ironic thing is that my parents are always asking after my online friends that they've met, and yet still tell me that I don't have any real friends. *snerk* It astounds me, really.

*blushes* I'm glad you liked it, love. And of course, you're more than welcome to link. The more the merrier, yeah? ;)

herlifeisbroken March 16 2006, 19:41:48 UTC

I linked! *loves*

froda_baggins March 16 2006, 19:30:22 UTC

uhm, yep. Most people (i.e. my family) assume I'm just some friendless nerd. Well, I am a nerd, but I'm not completely friendless. Most of my friends just happen to live far, far away from me and make seeing them on a regular basis in person impossible. So we talk online.

anjenue March 16 2006, 19:53:22 UTC

The distance is so sadmaking, isn't it? I think that's the one thing that is really difficult about this venue of friendship, for me, is knowing that there are some people who I really like whom I may never meet because they live too far away.

It's been forever. How are you, love? ♥

froda_baggins March 16 2006, 20:36:21 UTC

Oh, I've been fine, for the most part. Just...went through a serious LJ burnout phase, I guess. Heh. ♥

meredyth_13 March 16 2006, 19:38:47 UTC

*pokes self*

Yep... squishy meat. *loves*

♥

anjenue March 16 2006, 19:53:48 UTC

Save some of that poking for me, missy. *eyes you sternly*

meredyth_13 March 16 2006, 23:14:10 UTC

Always. :D

cinderedna87 March 16 2006, 19:46:41 UTC

That sums it up quite nicely. May I stick it in my memories to reference whenever someone brings up the dangers of online fraternization? ;P

anjenue March 16 2006, 19:54:09 UTC

Ahahahah. Absolutely. Memory away, m'dear. :D

starrysummer March 16 2006, 19:46:50 UTC

I found both Leo's post and yours really interesting, and what you're talking about reminds me of realizations I've come into on my own very recently ( ... )

anjenue March 16 2006, 19:56:21 UTC

Mmmm, yes, that's the thing that gets me too, is the sitting at the computer for hours a day. Feeling like you're tied to it, or whatever. I get that feeling sometimes, of claustrophobia, because I want to have fun and all but all the people I want to have fun with I interact with through this little computer, so sometimes I just have to go out on my own, but then I miss the people I would be talking to if I weren't out, and blah. I do however multitask like whoa, so it's rare that I feel properly bored or anything sitting around, since I'm not usually just...sitting. But I wish people lived closer. :( *misses you*