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[angerona]

I need to keep reminding myself that child development or parenting should not be a competitive sport.

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[_milashka]

yeah, I also need reminders of that sometimes :)

[mrs_paramon]

It's a hard promise to kee given our own competitive, overachieving nature. Will keep trying :-)

[ex_yzzzma459]

трудно когда другие вытаскивают на ринг.
"он у вас еще не ест вилкой?!?! а наш танцует, вышивает, считает до 50ти, знает наизусть Некрасова... бла бла бла"

[angerona]

да, вот именно поэтому и написала -- потому что вдруг почувствовала себя вытащенной и вступившей в бой и подумала: "эээ... а как я тут оказалась? А оно мне надо? А как бы отсюда сбежать?"

[kitsele]

Lyus', ne sovsem v temu, no rodstvenno: kak vam udayotsya tak horosho uchit' rebyonka russkomu? U vas kakaya-to special'naya metoda ili vy prosto vsegda govorite s nim i mezhdu soboy na dobrotnom chistom russkom yazyke bez primesey? Mne tak hochetsya chtoby Nico govoril po-russki, no tak malo nadezhdy chto iz moey zatei chto-to vyjdet... Delo uslozhnyaetsya eshyo i tem chto ya slishkom chasto torchu v sobstvennyh myslyah i zabyvayu chto nado postoyanno govorit', kommentirovat' proishodyashee, davat' nazvaniya okruzhayushemu.

[angerona]

мы просто говорим с ним по русски -- никакой дополнительной методики.

Я, правда, не знаю, что у нас получается, потому что вот английский ему почему-то не дается так быстро, как другим детям.

[bublik64]

:) Competition isn't always bad, only when you compare physiological processes you have no control over. Just hard to draw the line between "this is my kid, it's what he does" and "I trained my kid to do this, pat me on the back".

[angerona]

I'm more worried about the "ack, that kid is doing X, and mine is not, I must immediately sign mine up for fifteen classes to make sure he's doing X by the week's end" reaction.

[bublik64]

I know, I try very hard to quash that, to not put pressure on the kid - it only makes things worse.

PS, do you know of any rolling over classes ;)
PPS, I just threw the potty down the stairs this morning. My new strategy is to not change the diaper till the shirt is wet! How's that for mother-of-the-year submissions?

[angerona]

Yes, I actually know the rolling over class now! Here's how it works: put a baby on the floor/bed. Put a laptop somewhere to the side, where the baby can't reach immediately. Watch her roll from her back to her stomach for the first time ever! Discovered that yesterday. All it takes is a bit of proper incentive :)

[bloguser]

Ha! I don't have to remind myself about it, so must be a better parent!!! :-P

[bloguser]

And in case anybody for a second thinks that the above was not a joke, you're wrong.

[aite]

So now you are saying you have a superior sense of humor, too???