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[angeleyes1701]

I think I may have found what the problem with poliamory is for me - I don't have enough time to give one person the attention I would like to give them. Trying to give it to two people at the same time is a sure way to run me into the ground.

And yet, it's worth it.

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[avgboojie]

Thumbs up. On both counts.

[khatul]

Oh, I seem to have missed something - I thought you lived with Barak and that was it. Was I being naive?

[angeleyes1701]

I do live with Barak and love him to no end and plan to wed him and bare his children. I do however have another relationship with a female friend who is very dear to me and whom I love as well.

[khatul]

Cut me off if and when I become too nosy: what kind of relationship does SHE have with Barak, and how does Barak feel about this sharing?

I am asking this not because of mindless curiosity - for me it's a precious insight into the lives of people who live NOW as our ancestors did in Biblical times (think Jacob, Rachel and Leah).

[angeleyes1701]

Barak was actually the one who introduced us. Her relationship with Barak is of friendship and nothing more. At first I thought it would be odd but I guess I adjusted.

[cogitationitis]

Actually, it's a common complaint from polyamorists. It's why it didn't work out for me, either. (Of course, you aren't the kind to hyperfocus like I do, either.) You seem to have too much love to give just one person, but not enough time for two. It's a dilemma.

[winterk]

I've been in a similiar relationship once, and it went pretty well except for my one personal fault: I tend to be so spaced that I didnt give enough attention to either of them.

Fortunately, they were both pretty spaced out themselves, so. It worked out somehow.