Operation Femme Up Andy

[andygrrrl]

aka Operation Don't Look Like a Big Lesbian.

So I have a job interview tomorrow. It's a job I really want, and I've interviewed with them before, so I think I have a good shot at it. My job has been difficult: I'm  over-qualified for the entry level jobs, but lack the experience for the ones I'm educated for. There's several factors for why I'm not

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[booksforfood]

"PROFESSIONAL LESBIAN: LOCK UP YOUR DAUGHTERS!"

I almost spit coffee with milo all over my laptop screen!

It's a shame that you feel pressured to look "more straight" to get a job. It seems so alien to me, who grew up in San Francisco. I had a maths teacher who wore men's clothing and had a faint moustache (though I don't think she was trans), and she never had any trouble aside from the odd snarky comment from a stupid student. In fact, in SF it was good to be openly gay for job prospects, I'd say, as employers wanted to come across as diverse employers. Things are different in Aberdeen, though, as well. Pretty much everyone at my library was a straight white female. :/

[andygrrrl]

Ha! I am to amuse.

Yeah, I remember going to Pride in SF and being amazed that it felt like the whole city was celebrating. It's the pervasive subtlety of daily homophobia that's really wearing, having to look like a "normal" (i.e. straight) woman in order to be considered "professional". I think it's mostly subconcious on the part of the interviewers, which makes it all the more difficult to change.

[burningmarl]

Your previous interview outfit sounds Sue Perkins awesome! But your new one sounds good too, I hope it works. I definitely think that this prejudice is alive and well. It's ridiculous how threatening we are perceived to be. I've been complimented by two different bosses (including Women's Aid) and god knows how many other people for not being the bad type of lesbian. It makes me want to wear nothing but plaid and DMs for the rest of my days.

[andygrrrl]

Sue Perkins is AWESOME. Definitely a fashion icon for me.

It sucks that other people group us into "good" lesbians and "bad" lesbians. I love your feminine style! And I have a femme side to myself, but this kind of attitude always puts me off. I need a badge that says "STOP RUINING FEMININITY FOR ME STRAIGHT PEOPLE". Do you ever get guys hitting on you? Cause that happens to me when I femme up. As it is, men are more likely to talk to me and ignore TD when we're out together, cause she's the "scary" one. It really pisses me off.

[booksforfood]

The "bad" kind of lesbian?!?!?!?! D: D: