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[andrewducker]

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Avoidant personality disorder

[anna_wing]

I didn't know it was a formal psychiatric disorder. I was friends with someone like that for several years; it was very wearing because they were very self-obsessed and self-conscious, and in a constant state of upset over things that other people might or might not have done that might or might not be showing that the other person liked or did not like them. Relations more or less ended after I started studying Theravada Buddhism and suggested to them that giving up on the idea of an "authentic self" would be helpful.

Kids and presents

[woodpijn]

I really identify with that. Our kids get presents from us*, our parents, our siblings, our aunts and uncles, my grandparents, my cousin, and a bunch of family friends. Plus their own friends at their birthday parties. It's overwhelming. There's still a box in the hall of un-unpacked presents from last Christmas.

[*]We give them very modest presents ourselves because we know they'll be getting so much from other people

I have just about convinced my grandparents and aunts to stop buying for *me*, but I think they'd think it unthinkable to stop buying for my kids.

RE: Kids and presents

[anna_wing]

I found it very strange to think that children were getting more than one present from the same person. I find it easier to give books once they are old enough to read (i.e. 4 years old) and below that age it's usually clothes or things for the parents.