i dont understand why women dont like dick pics,if they like men. If some random chick on tinder wanted to send me a picture of her pussy, i'd say yeah, sure, send it.
Most women don't find visual porn as stimulating as most men. Men generally can get off on visual stimulation alone. Women, generally, can't. This is not a hard and fast rule, but it is a massive trend. Women tend to prefer erotica (written porn, often with emotional connections between rounded characters).
You are assuming that other people are just like you. Other people are not just like you. I, personally, am offended and disgusted by unsolicited pictures of genitals, because it is forcing me to view sexual material without asking whether or not I want it. It's similar to if someone were to come up to me and show me their genitals in real life: it is sexual harassment, only with the veneer of anonymity that makes people think it's okay.
I think that's part of it, but studies I've read (like this one and also this one) suggest another element at work:
If (as is my unproven guess) liking genital pics from members of your preferred gender is strongly correlated with wanting to have casual sex, then the issue is women (quite correctly) feel far less safe than men when considering casual sex and also are far less likely to enjoy themselves. Studies which present women with options that control for these to variables indicate that women are just as likely to want casual sex as men in the same situation. However, Tinder and similar situations are entirely uncontrolled and have the added risk of slut-shaming. So, my assumption is that in a less misogynist society, women would respond better to dick pics.
I am told that men (on average) are much more aroused by looking at photographs of genitals (presumably genitals of the type they prefer) than women, and I think I may have fallen off the end of this scale... (visual porn does nothing for me, if I want porn it needs to be written, and focusing on non-visual aspects).
I prefer to begin dating interactions with conversation, to find out if we are relationship-compatible; if someone is just looking for casual hookups that's fine, but it isn't want I'm after, so I'm not usually going to respond to "wanna fuck?" type messages on a dating site, and I would assume that a dick pick is basically a visual way of saying that.
One thought there - if men _asked_ before sending dick pics (like you implied), so that women had a choice of saying "Yeah, sure, send it" or "No thanks, kind of you to offer" then women would be a lot happier.
An outlier in a different direction, mayberedbirdAugust 17 2016, 12:45:18 UTC
I don't understand why people do like dick pics, because I'm attracted to humans, not disembodied parts of anatomy, but pretending those people don't exist wouldn't help me interact with the world. "This exists" or "here are people whose preferences are very different from mine" are more basic observations than "this person doesn't like what I like, because of these $reasons."
Some of the people I am attracted to are male; that doesn't in my case imply specifically wanting to look at out-of-context dicks, certainly not those of people I don't know. (Out-of-context here means both without the rest of the body, and without any real conversation.) What I know about someone who sends a dick pic without asking is that he either doesn't know or doesn't care that not all women want to see dick pics; that doesn't bode well for his respecting or noticing my preferences if we got naked together.
I like what penises can do and I like people who have penises. I have very little interest in looking at penises themselves, especially out of context in a dick pic.
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You are assuming that other people are just like you. Other people are not just like you. I, personally, am offended and disgusted by unsolicited pictures of genitals, because it is forcing me to view sexual material without asking whether or not I want it. It's similar to if someone were to come up to me and show me their genitals in real life: it is sexual harassment, only with the veneer of anonymity that makes people think it's okay.
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If (as is my unproven guess) liking genital pics from members of your preferred gender is strongly correlated with wanting to have casual sex, then the issue is women (quite correctly) feel far less safe than men when considering casual sex and also are far less likely to enjoy themselves. Studies which present women with options that control for these to variables indicate that women are just as likely to want casual sex as men in the same situation. However, Tinder and similar situations are entirely uncontrolled and have the added risk of slut-shaming. So, my assumption is that in a less misogynist society, women would respond better to dick pics.
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I prefer to begin dating interactions with conversation, to find out if we are relationship-compatible; if someone is just looking for casual hookups that's fine, but it isn't want I'm after, so I'm not usually going to respond to "wanna fuck?" type messages on a dating site, and I would assume that a dick pick is basically a visual way of saying that.
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Some of the people I am attracted to are male; that doesn't in my case imply specifically wanting to look at out-of-context dicks, certainly not those of people I don't know. (Out-of-context here means both without the rest of the body, and without any real conversation.) What I know about someone who sends a dick pic without asking is that he either doesn't know or doesn't care that not all women want to see dick pics; that doesn't bode well for his respecting or noticing my preferences if we got naked together.
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