Someone stick my foot in my mouth please

[andoriah]

So once again my mouth has gotten me in trouble. I don't know why I haven't learned yet.
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Comments

[jil_fred]

Hi-- sounds like a tough one. Helpful book on communication for me was Nonviolent Communication. As for the one who is still mad, maybe she is feeling guilty. I would apologize once more (perhaps in a one on one email with a read receipt) for approaching it poorly and let it go. If she can't, then it is her problem and she needs to grow up and get over it.

[andoriah]

Thanks. I did apologize again, tried to explain things better, and she is just so rigid. She's like - Drop it. I'm done.

So ok, we're done. She's the only one holding onto this, everyone else has said "Hey, it's ok, we're all human" more or less. Whatever. You're right, it's her problem. I guess we'll never be "friends" and that's ok. She's been unhappy in this position for a while, she's a complainer and Negative Nelly, and I hope she finds something else and moves on.

Thanks for the support,
-A

[lylyan]

Miss A.,

If you could take the sarchasm out of your communication I bet the way you are perceived would improve 100%. Sarchasm sounds like judgement and criticism, not just the straight facts, objectively presented for discussion. People shut down and are no longer willing to listen in those cases. (Can you tell I speak from experience?)

I've just started reading a book called "How to be the Boss Without Being a Bitch." I'll let you know how it is when I get more into it.

Hang in there!

[andoriah]

Thanks - let me know about the book, if it would be worth picking up. I'd appreciate that!
-A