Backhanded compliment time!

[and_old_lace]

Someone commented on one of my flickr pics saying "You're actually a really cute girl. You have a pretty face and your body isn't 'bad' but if you did a few situps and lost a little weight you could really be stunning. You have naturally good curves but some of them get lost in the extra weight

Comments

[firechild555]

i hate people not bringing up my weight until they find out i have had 4 kids. its like once they know they feel they must tell me i look great after having four kids. i have gained 40 or so lbs wtf does having kids do with it? it just confuses me. im fortunate and have gained the weight equally all over, but really what does weight gain or loss have to do with having kids? there are beanpoles out there with 4 kids and then there are people who are twice my size without any kids. i just dont understand it.

[withoutscene]

There are a million bothersome things about that comment. The assumption that you need their validation, the entitlement to evaluating your body, the unsolicited advice and hence, the assumptions about your motives, desires, and needs, the idea of "extra weight" are only a few.

You ARE fucking stunning.

Dear commenter,

You're actually a complete idiot. You have an incredible amount of entitlement and your assumptions about me are really bad ones, but if you realized the world doesn't revolve around you and your need to project your needs and desires onto others, you would be much less of a bother. Maybe you have good intentions, but they are lost in all that extra assholery.

[implicate]

weird. another lj friend of mine got almost the same comment, word for word, on some lj post she made.

but beyond the weirdness, HELLO BULLSHIT, HOW HAVE YOU BEEN?!

[and_old_lace]

I wonder if its the same person.

[elnoradawn]

wow. just. wow.