Mistakes

[am4z1ng]

I’ve been thinking about this entry for a long time, and I wasn’t very sure how to approach it, but then along came Deep with a situation that really allowed all the thoughts in my mind to flow together and culminate into a lesson that I’ve learned. It is that which I share with you in these words, and it is Deep to whom I really owe the

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[anonymous]

Niraj,

[am4z1ng]

"Niraj,"

and then blank space does not work for me. Try again, please.

Thanks for the effort though

[anonymous]

Niraj

yo

[anonymous]

i insipired u? maybe ive finally found the true definition to am4z1ng?! i appreciate how u wouldn't go back and change your mistakes, it reveals that you really do have an appreciation for mistakes, and the ability to learn from them and prevent them again. i agree that when you have made a mistake, they should advise other people not to make the same one. But in this example of you saying that you friends watched you make a huge mistake, i think that if friends feel strongly about their advice, and see the enormous mistake another friend is about to mistake, they shouldnt merely give advice and thats it. they should keep reinforcing it. It may seem a bit annoying, but if the mistake is going to be as enormous as it sounds, i would do anything to stop a friend from making it, especially if i knew how it felt. you also said people give advice in the form of criticism. i realized that i might sometimes do this, not in the form of criticism exactley, but i might talk in a way that seems like what i say is the correct way. i never use "

Re: yo

[am4z1ng]

Great comment Deep, presented a very balanced opinion. I'd like to just add that, for instance in the drunk driving case--you don't have to make that mistake to learn from it, you could learn from the fact that other people did it, and you're right about that. My post was not meant to say that you should try and make mistakes to learn from them, or that mistakes are necessary to learn something, but more that when you do make mistakes you have to get something out of them, because I think that's absolutely important.

[anonymous]

Well Niraj, you are right about one thing. It is very important to make your own mistakes, b/c it's never the same as when a friend makes the same one. The reason for this is that although you can think things through and find a reasonable solution when it is someone else, when you are put in the same situation, you can FEEL what the person was going through. Yes, I know that sounds like something I would say, b/c i am always the one to do what I FEEL is right, and not necisarily the REASONABLE decision. However, no matter what mistakes I have made or how the situation may have blown up in my face, if you will, I will never regret a decision I've made when I felt it was right. I applaud you for doing what you felt in your heart, and realizing that doing that is not something to regret. I do think, however, that you shouldn't view a decision that turned for the worst in hindsight as a mistake. If you did what you felt at the time, no matter how unreasonable, it was the right thing to do.

~Scott

[am4z1ng]

Thanks for your comment Scott, it was a good one as always.

I really like your philosophy that doing what you felt was right cannot be a mistake. I think that will make it easier in life to accept your decisions, because it gives you the ability to move on from past decisions and not dwell on things. That, in turn, lets you keep moving forward and being progressive, and that's what life's about.

[anonymous]

Mistakes. It seems to be the only thing I'm good at these days. I've never really read this entry until just now, but i have skimmed it before. I thought i should really read it through just because of my current situation..and instead of beating myself up over my most recent mistake, you just showed me that i should see it as a learning experience.
Ok, so I lied i'm still pretty much only beating myself up for it. BUT at least I'm maybe learning from it so hopefully I wont make it a 3rd time?

Ok enough about that. Excellent entry, as always.
Love ya much,
Kelly