Question - RE: Babies

[alongthoselines]

This question is geared mostly towards the females on my f-list, but men, do feel free to chime in with your opinion too.

At what age do you plan on having children (if you don't have any already)? Is there an "ideal" age?

I got into a bit of a debate with a few of my law school classmates. A lot of them want to get pregnant as soon as possible. For

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Numbers 3 through 9 I can guarantee! As for one and two, I've always sucked major donkey balls at making dioramas. Brings back traumatic memories of the third grade in which I had to depict a scene from a Boxcar Children book via a diorama. My little brother sat on it in the backseat as my mom drove us to school. I think I got my first ever (and last) C on that assignment.

...buuuut I like your thinking behind the diorama!

And happy holidays to you too! (lowercase, in accordance with your beliefs)

[vaguelyclear]

Most of the people I went to high school are either married or engaged, so I'm betting children will be just around the corner, which feels weird to me because I still feel like a child a lot of the time XD

I knew one girl who told her boyfriend (who is now her husband) that she wanted to start having kids at 25 or something. Like, she was all, "It's happening!" She's 26 and now has a baby boy (which they, unfortunately, named Boston).

For me, I... don't know, to be honest. I really have no clue where I'm going to end up. I'm still trying to get my life together and right now, I really can't picture myself with a husband and kids. I would like children one day, sure, but who the hell knows when that will be.

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Most of the people I went to high school are either married or engaged
Same here! It's a little disconcerting, really. A lot of my high school classmates are actually having kids now (thank you, Catholic school, for teaching us all SO well *sarcasm*) and saving the marriage for later, which freaks me out MORE, because I can't imagine taking care of a kid on my own - at all.

Boston? As...awkward/awful that name is, it will never beat Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii, lol.

I think I'm kind of where you are. The whole family thing will happen, but my life is full of such uncertainty that I can't even begin to GUESS when it will happen.

[richyl88]

I want kids so much but I don't believe you should put it on a timeline you need to be in the right place to have a kid not just because you're at the age you said you wanted to have kids by. What's right for one person is not for the other person. Most of my co-workers have kids one hads 2 (2 and 5) and she's 27 and the other she's in her mid 40's and has 2 (7 and 4).

Although if you do want a few kids some people like to start early. Some people do have fertility problems so if they do age is a very big factor,the younger you are the easier it will be.

As long as it's what you want that's all that matters :)

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As long as it's what you want that's all that matters
Exactly! But I got such a nasty response from my classmates that I was wondering if I'm a part of the minority view in that I want to wait a little before I commit. Kids aren't accessories you get to drag around. They're living, breathing, human beings and it'd be cruel to have a child if I can't even pay attention to him/her.

I don't think I'd wait as late as forty to have kids (that's awesome for your co-worker, though!), but I'm 100% sure I don't want to have a kid within the next four years or anything.