I think, chatting with someone else who has been through this and processed it would be of great benefit to destany. She desperately needs to understand that her parents are not the only ones who understand that what happened to her was an act of random emotional violence, and has nothing to do with who she really is. Thank you so much for the offer. My yahoo IM name is MmeMave, assuming you have that, if not, my email addy is AmyHull@gmail.com . I would love to talk to another parent who has been through this.
Thank you, again, for the empathy and compassion. It means a whole BIG bunch to me.
I empathize with your frustration, Amy. The situation we had was really awful. Further to Kiki's reply, it was very informative for us to step back and take a long look at where the bullying children were coming from; it turned out that several of them came from very troubled families. One boy, however, is just a sick little phucker, truly sociopathic while his parents (whom we knew, to a degree) were very earthy and centred. It was odd, just something to note. All reasons aside for "why" other kids should see fit to harm another rather than protect and befriend, the immediate goal definitely should be to shield your kid from harm, at all costs. In our case, it was the act of removing her from the harmful environment which saved her (the school always reprimanded her for fighting back, painting her the agressor and the boys were highly skilled at inflicting their damage then pretending they were innocent). Boy was the school surprised and pissed when we left, and we were no longer welcome there. Fuckem and their "There is no
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I too was bullied; and Jeff, you have just outlined a marvelous diagram. I do recommend getting Destiny into martial arts, if only because they will help her with confidence. Not to overstate it, but being bullied is very simaler to being raped, and the confidence can help you to become less of a target.
(Also if the bully was boy, a few moments of instruction in the "gentler parts" of the harder folks can yeild some short term results)
"Razor wit" however, is only effective in a crowd.
The "friends to back you up" was the one that eventually ended the issues for me. They didn't need to be around all the time, just my knowledge that they would "avenge" me, and their knowledge that I'd do the same.
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(Also if the bully was boy, a few moments of instruction in the "gentler parts" of the harder folks can yeild some short term results)
"Razor wit" however, is only effective in a crowd.
The "friends to back you up" was the one that eventually ended the issues for me. They didn't need to be around all the time, just my knowledge that they would "avenge" me, and their knowledge that I'd do the same.
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