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[allira_dream]

One of the things I hate when I post something NC17 (in yaoi more often than not, since mentality seems to be of the 'penetrated=submissive') is that people will, undoubtedly, say something about who I chose as a top

Comments

[ldydragon7]

Yeah, I agree. I hate the idea that the less 'manly' one or the 'submissive' one is always the bottom. Especially since I don't like the idea that one person has to be the 'submissive' one in a relationship. I prefer equals who bring different strengths and weakness to the relationship. And I prefer relationships where partners can switch off who bottoms and tops or situations where one is topping from the bottom or bottoming from the top.

One of the reasons I love your writing is you don't go with the easy or stereotypical situation.

I’m sorry people keep leaving such stupid and small-minded comments on your fic.

[allira_dream]

I really don't mind one being submissive in certain pairings: Loveless, for example, Soubi IS the submissive one, even if he has to adjust to, you know. Havinga twelve-years-old as a master and thus has to tweak things a little until said master is ready. There are some relationships where the Dom/sub is what works best for the couple, and it's still great.

But seriously. In many cases, even if one of the two is fair, pretty and small, it doesn't mean his dick is just for the looks and giggles.

[reversedhymnal]

Anything I say here will just be. Well, worthless reiteration, because you know it all, and just about anyone who reads my fic knows it all, so what's the point, really?

I feel yah, though, bebe. Oooh yeah, I do. And your view point is one of the things that I love about you, ♥ One of the many!

[allira_dream]

And that's why you're amazing. ♥

[solesakuma]

I agree with you. Even if there are certain pairings which, for me, have a very fixed power dynamic (for example, I can't actually see Lantis as dominant in Eagle/Hikaru/Lantis), that doesn't translate to top/bottom.
But since I adore who-tops fights, I may not be the best one to talk. XP

[allira_dream]

Oh, I love who-tops fights, too, or some sort of power-dynamics. I also do have some couples where I can't see one being the dominant one. Buuuut still, that rarely translates to sex, I think?

Or well. At least I try to not let it translate too much into sex.

[solesakuma]

Maybe it's more about not translating it so obviously and instead do something more creative. Because power dynamics probably do affect sex but not in a such straight-forward manner.
I don't know, maybe A has control issues yet he doesn't top, he's just a very restrained bottom who never lets go.