I'm very much in favor of avoiding the sort of "hardship bingo" some people play when it comes to how I or anyone else should cope. My problems matter to me because they're mine. I own them and they very much own me.
And my ability to cope is influenced by a lot of things, most of which people aren't privy to. My PTSD that has settled into anxiety disorder, my lifelong depression, my abandonment issues, the things that have happened to me... I do the best I can. Anyone who is getting by is probably doing they best they can, even if they appear to be struggling.
And I can't just "cheer up." Generally, when someone tells me to just "cheer up," it's about them and not me anyway. It's that they don't want to be inconvenienced by my mental illness, which they likely consider just me being moody anyway.
I could get to rambling here, so I'll stop. I'll just say... I agree with this.
This is so weird. Really, I was just going to include something like this in a comment yesterday, but it got long to the point of irrelevancy so I deleted it and vowed to post something shorter later.
Short version: the other night my mom's boyfriend (Mr. BPD/PTSD himself) went on a drunken tirade about how it is a person's choice to suffer from a mental disorder because 'God doesn't make people mentally ill'. To which I thought 'I suppose cancer, diabetes, sickle-cell anemia, etc. are illusions too?' My mom (who is also Depressed and was on medication when she had insurance) knew better than to call him out on his bullshit, though. You can't argue with a drunk person--much less a stupid one.
Anyway, you're right. There is no way to 'cheer' yourself out of a mental disorder. I thought I'd 'beaten' (I'm revoking my quote privileges) my OCD when I stopped playing with lightswitches and 'reading the energy' of forks and spoons--only to find out it was just manifesting itself in other ways.
You can't argue with a drunk person--much less a stupid one.
THIS.
And I never really know what to do with the "God's plan" people (part of it may be the fact I fall outside their "spectrum" religiously): if God doesn't make people that are mentally ill, why does He make people that make Zoloft? Why does He create therapists? Exactly where do we draw the line at God's' intervention? Heh, now I'm reminded of a number of George Carlin bits.
YOU ARE SO QUOTE-PRIVILEGED!!! Don't feel bad: I knew what ya meant (and I abuse quotation marks myself, frequently). It's sad how often we think we can beat disease or "I feel better [thanks to the drugs] so I don't need the drugs anymore!" Kind of reminds me of this Onion article (the Onion is so frequently my catharsis/source of shriek-laughing).
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And my ability to cope is influenced by a lot of things, most of which people aren't privy to. My PTSD that has settled into anxiety disorder, my lifelong depression, my abandonment issues, the things that have happened to me... I do the best I can. Anyone who is getting by is probably doing they best they can, even if they appear to be struggling.
And I can't just "cheer up." Generally, when someone tells me to just "cheer up," it's about them and not me anyway. It's that they don't want to be inconvenienced by my mental illness, which they likely consider just me being moody anyway.
I could get to rambling here, so I'll stop. I'll just say... I agree with this.
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Hey you.
For a number of reasons, you're awesome.
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Yeah, I was definitely thinking this recently.
*is cheered up immensely by this gif*
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Short version: the other night my mom's boyfriend (Mr. BPD/PTSD himself) went on a drunken tirade about how it is a person's choice to suffer from a mental disorder because 'God doesn't make people mentally ill'. To which I thought 'I suppose cancer, diabetes, sickle-cell anemia, etc. are illusions too?' My mom (who is also Depressed and was on medication when she had insurance) knew better than to call him out on his bullshit, though. You can't argue with a drunk person--much less a stupid one.
Anyway, you're right. There is no way to 'cheer' yourself out of a mental disorder. I thought I'd 'beaten' (I'm revoking my quote privileges) my OCD when I stopped playing with lightswitches and 'reading the energy' of forks and spoons--only to find out it was just manifesting itself in other ways.
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THIS.
And I never really know what to do with the "God's plan" people (part of it may be the fact I fall outside their "spectrum" religiously): if God doesn't make people that are mentally ill, why does He make people that make Zoloft? Why does He create therapists? Exactly where do we draw the line at God's' intervention?
Heh, now I'm reminded of a number of George Carlin bits.
YOU ARE SO QUOTE-PRIVILEGED!!! Don't feel bad: I knew what ya meant (and I abuse quotation marks myself, frequently). It's sad how often we think we can beat disease or "I feel better [thanks to the drugs] so I don't need the drugs anymore!" Kind of reminds me of this Onion article (the Onion is so frequently my catharsis/source of shriek-laughing).
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I love you. that is all. you're amazing and thank you for this entry.<3
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Aww *loves back* thanks, lady. Sometimes we just need to let it out, ya know?
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