The MeFi Emotional Labour Thread

[alexmegami]

"You know how men talk about PMS as this miserable, barely survivable time when you have to watch what you say, be careful not to make too much noise, swallow your real thoughts, make constant concessions to avoid conflict, and accept sudden outbursts of anger as commonplace? (aka things I unconsciously do around many men I know and love

Comments

[alexmegami]

"Classic catch-22:
If it's the first time, why are you getting so overwrought about this one little thing?
If it's happened more than once, why didn't you tell me it bothered you before?

Also, can we not talk about this right now? I'm busy/tired/not in the mood, and you're obviously too upset to hold a reasonable discussion."

AUGH

[roseneko]

Hell of an observation. ++, would read again.

[alexmegami]

Have you read the whole thread? (I mean, I wouldn't blame you if not, it apparently is as long as your average GRRM book at this point, but it's... well. Depressing but illuminating.)

[roseneko]

Bits and pieces of it. The discussion has led to some good discussion with a particular friend - I (and lots of his other friends) have had a lot of frustrations with him over the years, mostly over intangible stuff that was frustratingly difficult to articulate. So when I saw this, it was great to have something to point to and go "This! This is why your friends all seem to randomly get pissed at you!"