re: Not Having Sex on the First Date

[ahunter3]

I echo my blog posts on the Straight Dope Message Board, an internet discussion board I've been a part of for two decades. It's a general-topic board where people post thought-provoking posts on a wide range of interesting subjects. For those of you with no familiarity with it, I recommend it: The Straight Dope Message BoardAnyway, there is a

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[old_cutter_john]

Yeah, wow! As an Autistic, I come at your bullet points from the flip. I've pretty much neglected all the processing described in the third one (from both sides!); but looking back, I recognize that people have always given me a lot of respect for my carelessness with my image: they see that I do what I want and they figure I've always been successful in defending my right.

The first one is a great explanation! Autism is (among other things) Exodus 23:2 made easy ("thou shalt not follow a multitude to do evil"): conforming to expectations isn't an intuitive adaptation for us. My understanding of the appeal of gender conformity is enhanced by having its temptations pointed out, and I expect that the same is true of some neurotypicals for whom gender conformity doesn't require the conscious adjustment of behavior. I imagine the neurotypicals who have adjusted their behavior will react positively to your explanation if they see an opportunity for liberation or negatively if they see a threat to their cover.

[ahunter3]

On the Straight Dope, someone replied to the above blogpost to say that it was all cogent and clearly written, but that it seemed to be a long introduction to a concluding point that I never actually made