Good God, what a bitch. Get over it and learn to love your daughter and fellow human beings! It blows my mind that someone can be that close-minded and hateful, it really does.
If she's seriously kicking her out, then a) at least you'll be able to see her after that, and b) why is she even bothering to keep you two away from one another now?
I really, really hope things work out for the both of you.
If she's seriously kicking her out, then a) at least you'll be able to see her after that, and b) why is she even bothering to keep you two away from one another now? That is indeed a very good question, especially since, IIRC, she'll be 18 and therefore an adult and not answerable to her mother. The probable answer is that the mother's nowhere close to thinking rationally. You know my views, Rosie lass, but that reaction is still very, very wrong, and I'm sorry you're both on the receiving end of it. And I hope nothing worse happens to either of you.
b) why is she even bothering to keep you two away from one another now?
That was my first question. Honestly, this kind of behaviour reminds me of nothing so much as a spoiled toddler throwing a tantrum in an effort to get her way. And I suspect this woman is at about that emotional level right now. One is probably best off reacting as to an upset toddler; don't argue, just gently say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is still how it's going to be," and stick to your guns.
Of course, toddlers don't have power over you - Britny should probably keep her head down as much as possible until she can get out of there. Which, thankfully, will be soon. Once she's gone, her mom might calm down eventually...or not, but at least Britny won't have to be there for it.
It's sad, and it's tough, but you guys can get through it. Hang in there...
I don't know if this would help, but the PFLAG chapter in Knoxville has a helpline, or there are some national toll-free ones run by a few different organizations, if she needs someone to
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OKAY, SLIGHTLY LESS FLIPPANTLY COS I KNOW I HAVE JERK TENDENCIES. Um. S'not much you can do, y'know? Just hang in there. Hugs for you too. I was just thinking, it'd be good to give her sanctuary now. Having the computer and car and phone gone sucks balls, of course, but right now just. You know. Keep her safe and sane for a bit. Give her a place where she doesn't have to worry. Something like that. Then you can worry about nicking her stuff back later.
If she needs to know, there are some inexpensive apartments in the area. The first place I moved was $275/month, included all water/trash, 1bedroom, laundromat on site. It's down highway 36, towards johnson city, just before Dashboard Audio. Called Woodland Terrace apts. There are several other good places in that general area. Living more towards JC/Gray tends to be an easier area to live in, is close to good job options and close to both colleges. The place is growing up rapidly, so there are likely many living options I'm not aware of (garage apts, etc) that weren't there before. It's East TN too, if she needs to get her own place, then let ppl know that you trust and ppl will come together to get her things she needs (i.e. I already know I have a good serviceable dining table downstairs, twin bed frame, tv stand, and curtains..)
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If she's seriously kicking her out, then a) at least you'll be able to see her after that, and b) why is she even bothering to keep you two away from one another now?
I really, really hope things work out for the both of you.
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That is indeed a very good question, especially since, IIRC, she'll be 18 and therefore an adult and not answerable to her mother. The probable answer is that the mother's nowhere close to thinking rationally.
You know my views, Rosie lass, but that reaction is still very, very wrong, and I'm sorry you're both on the receiving end of it. And I hope nothing worse happens to either of you.
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That was my first question. Honestly, this kind of behaviour reminds me of nothing so much as a spoiled toddler throwing a tantrum in an effort to get her way. And I suspect this woman is at about that emotional level right now. One is probably best off reacting as to an upset toddler; don't argue, just gently say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is still how it's going to be," and stick to your guns.
Of course, toddlers don't have power over you - Britny should probably keep her head down as much as possible until she can get out of there. Which, thankfully, will be soon. Once she's gone, her mom might calm down eventually...or not, but at least Britny won't have to be there for it.
It's sad, and it's tough, but you guys can get through it. Hang in there...
I don't know if this would help, but the PFLAG chapter in Knoxville has a helpline, or there are some national toll-free ones run by a few different organizations, if she needs someone to ( ... )
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What are we living in? The 1500's? Geez, if anything it sounds like she needs to get her mind out of the box it's locked in.
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