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[aetheldaeg]

I try to play by the rules. I'm cautious by nature. "Safety girl". Sometimes though, it seems as if everything goes wrong. Today was the culmination of several days of things going wrong

Comments

[lesli]

Hugs!

[aetheldaeg]

:o)

[oakwind]

I think you handle things amazingly well. One of the things that I notice for myself is that my anxiety response is heightened compared to BC (before cancer). I believe that dealing with the fear of maybe having cancer on discovering a lump, fear of surgery, fear of death, fear of chemo, fear of pain, etc. trains our hormonal response so that even little things trigger a large squirt of adrenalin and cortisol instead of the little squirt we would have gotten before. And due to chemo brain the anxiety makes it harder to think and access our normal healthy decision making process.

If you can stop and take a deep breath and remember that you survived a life threat, and months of pain and unpleasantness, then maybe everything else will shrink back into the small stuff it really is. Sometimes it works for me and sometimes not :)

[aetheldaeg]

Thank you. I think you've hit the nail on the head. I'll try taking a deep breath and maybe walking away from the problem if I can, even if it's just a few minutes so that I can calm down.

[opakele]

I'm going to make a suggestion. I believe I know you well enough by now that you will blink and say, "What's that girl thinking?"

Do something that is not safe. No, nothing crazy or life threatening, but defy the safe compulsion. For example, choose not to do the 'right' thing, because it really annoys you, anyway.

I too am very structured. I have to fight to step out of my box. Challenge myself to step out of my box. (box=safe) I'm only a risk taker if things are carefully thought out, but I am getting better at it. Cancer has helped me get better at it. When I allow myself to break 'the rules' to please myself, (no harm to humans or animals) I am happier.

Assignment: Make a card using Stampin Up products and defying their design rules. Ha! (Then hide it in a drawer. It will be our little secret, but you'll know it is there.)

[aetheldaeg]

OMG, you crack me up. It's a good idea, except for hiding it in a drawer. I will post it in my journal and then hide it in a drawer. I have to get better at being a risk taker. Playing it safe my whole life didn't keep me safe from cancer. I have no idea where to begin, (besides the card) but it's my new goal. Live a bit closer to the edge.
Thank you, you are a good friend.

Rules to live by

[kailiia]

1. Breath
2. sleep when you wanna
3. junk food is no excuse for a good conversation or a soul washing cry
4. conversation or tears can be support by any family member or friend... fur-people included.
5. when stressed... dance.
6. amend rule 5*... when (insert emotion here) dance like no one is watching.
7. Rules may be substituted - but be sure to make a new one for every substitution...

*hugs* to the fabulous momo!

Re: Rules to live by

[aetheldaeg]

Thanks kiddo. *hugs* back at ya. I like rule 6 the best.
I don't want to cry more than I already do, I just end up with a redder nose and a blotchy face.