When Are You Ready for Marriage?

[actingblood15]

After speaking with a friend about many of her friends who have chosen to marry - the question arose for me - when, really, are you ready for marriage?

When is the appropriate time to wed?

Do you wait until your older and know more about yourself to decide, or is it better to hop on the exciting love bandwagon and cash in on all that goofy

Comments

[garillama]

I think that (a) you need to know yourself, and (b) you need to know the other person. The first one I don't think you can know until you're at least 18 (usually more) and, in my opinion, until you live away from your parents for a while. The second one needs at the very least a year, minimum, before you even get engaged. Preferably, you should live together for a while also. So that puts you at, minimum, 19 years old and in a relationship for a year+, with co-habitation. And really, I've changed so much during college that I'd never recommend even that short a time to anyone. I'd call a year engagement sensible, just to make sure and to plan your wedding, which puts you at 20 and 2+ years into the relationship.

If it's the right person, that goofy love feeling will be there, I think :) Even if it's not as strong as the New Relationship Energy (which I've personally had with many people, most of whom turned out to be incompatible and many of whom turned out to be douchebags), it will be there if they're worth marrying!

[veni_yan_cari]

I got married when I was seventeen. I'm still happy as I was the day I met him.

[garillama]

There are exceptions, for sure, and I'm happy for you :) I have just seen a lot of people getting married too young, and separating messily later. I know if I had gotten married to the guy I was very seriously dating when I was 17, I would have regretted it a lot, because the more I found out about him, and the more I find out about him now, the more I realize he's kind of a big douchebag. I was all set to get married and have babies at 17, though.

I would never wish anything bad on someone who married young, I wish all the best because I hate to see people I love unhappy, I have just seen bad results more often than not :( (which implies that there are some who worked out well and are happy!)