FWIW, I don't know if it makes me blind, ignorant or slow, but I never knew you were gay, nor did I ever even think you were. Of course, thanks to heteronormative privilege and assumption, I assumed you were straight, but just had awful luck with women. Even if I had known, of course, you would have still been my friend.
I'm sorry you went through that and that I didn't see it. I had no more social standing than you, I think, but I like to think I would have done more to stand by you if I had seen the harassment. I'm glad you made it through. I love seeing you so happy despite or because of all of the trials you've been through.
I'm amazed you didn't suspect as I thought I was fairly obvious; even nicer people to me (remember Eric Pleva??) told me, "Dude, do you like dick or what?"
As for things happening to me: it would usually be gym, lunch, or the few times I had study hall. Remember the time I came in with the fat lip in journalism class? Yeah ...
Well, I was so far in the closet, I could see Narnia, so you can certainly be forgiven for not pinging on me (although, to be honest, about half of everyone I met thought I was gay anyway).
As for Eric, I don't remember him. I have forgotten (many times on purpose) a *lot* of people from both of my high schools. Everyone I cared about from there, I still talk to in some capacity. Everyone else can go hang.
I still feel bad for being oblivious to the abuse you went through. :(
Ok so I was just going through some stuff and ran across this post with the Ellen Video on it and looking over the comments I seen this name. May I ask where you grew up? I grew up in Romeoville, IL but moved out of the Ville halfway through sophomore year. Please let me know. I too am gay and if you were in Romeoville and you knew Eric Pleva I am sure that I would have known you. I am Tim Kugelman please feel free to look me up on Facebook. I hope to hear from you. BTW my pic on FB is of a squirrel with superman. Hope to talk to you soon. IT GETS BETTER!!!!
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I'm sorry you went through that and that I didn't see it. I had no more social standing than you, I think, but I like to think I would have done more to stand by you if I had seen the harassment. I'm glad you made it through. I love seeing you so happy despite or because of all of the trials you've been through.
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I'm amazed you didn't suspect as I thought I was fairly obvious; even nicer people to me (remember Eric Pleva??) told me, "Dude, do you like dick or what?"
As for things happening to me: it would usually be gym, lunch, or the few times I had study hall. Remember the time I came in with the fat lip in journalism class? Yeah ...
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As for Eric, I don't remember him. I have forgotten (many times on purpose) a *lot* of people from both of my high schools. Everyone I cared about from there, I still talk to in some capacity. Everyone else can go hang.
I still feel bad for being oblivious to the abuse you went through. :(
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and i was thankful that i didn't come off gay, but that never really helped.
my views on suicide are another story.
glad you made it through :)
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