I wouldn't look at this as a reflection on you. I'd look at this as a reflection on him. no matter how big or old he is, he's still brand new to gay sex...he'll come through it
I have a feeling he'll come around. Just give him space and let him work it out on his own.
Don't know if you saw the film, Trembling before G-d when it came out back in 2002, I saw it when it was making the rounds and Sandy, the producer was doing Q&A questions after the film and one thing that was said in that film is that and I think this applies to more than just the Jewish community is that gay men represents to many folks a "feminization" of the male, ie, when 2 men do it together, one of them has to play the fem part, ie, be submissive, letting the other plow him and its this act that many disapprove of for men are not to be submissive, but aggressive, the roll takers etc.
As others have said already, he'll probably come around.
I found I was more ready to develop into the fag that I am than anything else for I never had that fear instilled into me, sadly, I will never know how my Dad would react for he passed on 3 years before I came out.
In all seriousness, I DO think it often boils down to the true discomfort is what I said above for many who have issues, and I'm more referring to the straight etc set, and it may well have been instilled into those who are struggling with their own sexuality.
It was disappointing. I'm apparently a bad start-off gay man, as this "I can't do this" spiel has already happened once to me...
Just because you're the constant in these experiences doesn't mean that you're the problem. Even though it may be a different guy each time it's happened, they're all straight men looking to experiment. That in itself is a constant and that, my friend, is the problem.
Find yourself some burly, bearded gay men to play with and put these other guys in the right perspective.
(Besides, where are the pics to match this description of yourself?)
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Don't know if you saw the film, Trembling before G-d when it came out back in 2002, I saw it when it was making the rounds and Sandy, the producer was doing Q&A questions after the film and one thing that was said in that film is that and I think this applies to more than just the Jewish community is that gay men represents to many folks a "feminization" of the male, ie, when 2 men do it together, one of them has to play the fem part, ie, be submissive, letting the other plow him and its this act that many disapprove of for men are not to be submissive, but aggressive, the roll takers etc.
As others have said already, he'll probably come around.
I found I was more ready to develop into the fag that I am than anything else for I never had that fear instilled into me, sadly, I will never know how my Dad would react for he passed on 3 years before I came out.
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In all seriousness, I DO think it often boils down to the true discomfort is what I said above for many who have issues, and I'm more referring to the straight etc set, and it may well have been instilled into those who are struggling with their own sexuality.
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Just because you're the constant in these experiences doesn't mean that you're the problem. Even though it may be a different guy each time it's happened, they're all straight men looking to experiment. That in itself is a constant and that, my friend, is the problem.
Find yourself some burly, bearded gay men to play with and put these other guys in the right perspective.
(Besides, where are the pics to match this description of yourself?)
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