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[xjmrufinix]

I'll spare everyone the novel that is my life story, but here is a little background and a current situation which is really getting to me. I would really appreciate anyone's advice or insight into this, since I don't have a lot of people in real life who can relate.

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[letterperfect]

Holy crap! I am totally outraged after reading this. I cannot believe you had an experience like that in school. That is totally despicable. That man should never be allowed to work in a school environment ever again. I understand that your Dad wants to keep up appearances (& maintain his denial) & that you don't want to upset him & shame the family, but I would pay careful attention to your instincts about confronting the principal. To say that his behavior & continued employment is entirely unreasonable does not even begin to describe it. He was beyond grossly negligent. His behavior was inexcusable & he ought to be fired or "suggested" into early retirement. I know that this is all scary, terrifying even, but you seem sure of yourself & strong willed. It would take great courage on your part to take action on this, but if you think you can do (I think you can!), I plead of you to do so. Write another letter, write to the board of education. Be explicit about what happened & make sure they know who the perpetrator was

[igosm]

I had a problem at school that was not even close to this bad. The teacher addressed me as "Fat Girl" even AFTER she knew my name. She was not re-hired. Supposedly I had disrespected this woman who was not my teacher and had a God-complex and a serious case of rude on her. Actually after the WHOLE truth came out. (Thanks to me being honest with my Mom) I was supposed to apologize. I was never able to catch the woman at work again. I hope they just edged her out right there I dunno. I never saw her again. Now I had my Mom back me up.. I wonder if you could still press charges. I mean really, it's not just your sister he's exposed to.

[xjmrufinix]

I was like 13, 14? I'm 27 now. Pressing charges is way overdue, but I really don't want to just sit by and let this happen anymore. I was a victim for a long time because I took the blame and kept quiet. I'm tired of that. I think I will push the issue, I just wanted someone to affirm that this wasn't a crazy and misguided idea on my part.

[igosm]

The clock doesn't usually start until you react majority. So if it's 10 years. you are still in there. But only if you feel strong enough. There may be others. perpetrators tend to perpetrate.

[blueserenity22]

***hugs*** I had shitty teachers that let me get beat up in their class (though they didn't instigate it).

I hope your sister gets the hell out of his class. ♥

(PS Icon is towards the teacher. :))

[saadiira]

I had teachers who also encouraged others to bully and harm me. Thankfully, it was never sexual, but 32 years later, I can still recall it, and it still pisses me off. Thankfully, the principal walked in on it one day, and threw a RIGHTEOUS fit. That stopped the worst of it.

-Dira-

[sistahraven]

I would say that you are well within your rights to go to the principal, explain the situation, and request that your sister be changed into a different class. If your dad knows about the situation, but doesn't want your sister to know, he can call and ask to have her class changed without giving a reason.

My school would change classes on request if there was an issue with a teacher, but they didn't require you to file a report in order to do so - just had to say that there had been a conflict with the teacher, but didn't need to specify at all. They'd much rather their students be happy with their teachers than end up in conflict or court over it.

I'd also say that it's completely okay to let your sister know that if ANYTHING happens that she thinks is inappropriate, that she is to go straight to the principal - so that she can be protected, too.

I'm so sorry your teacher allowed and encouraged that to happen. Teachers are people who should be trustworthy, and he took his position of authority and used it to hurt you.