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[_kmf_]

I took my wedding ring off last night for the first time since I got married back in 1993. It felt odd to have it off, but it didn't feel wrong. I only removed it for a few minutes and didn't even put it down, just held it and looked at it and remembered when Ian put it on my finger. Its back on now. I think I will continue to wear it even

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[ohsochewy]

One thing I've heard of is having his ring melted down with your ring to make a new piece of jewelry. That might be a nice idea :)

You should continue to wear it as long as you feel it's right. I don't think it's a question of whether you're married or not married... in many ways, you ARE still married to the idea of him, to his presence in your life, even though it's clear that you've made some strides in moving on. I think people would understand either way, and at any rate it's not their business to make judgments about something that may be very important to you.

I took mine off a few weeks ago and I don't know if homullus noticed yet, but I kind of hope he doesn't :/ But at least we've talked about what is important that we do or not do before and after the divorce goes through.

[_kmf_]

Ian didn't have a wedding ring which makes me a little sad as I wish he had so I could wear it on a chain now. I wanted him to have one when we got married but he never wore jewelery and really didn't want to start just because he was getting married.

My wedding ring belonged to Ian's paternal grandmother who died a few months before we got married. When I was given it by Ian's uncle he specifically said that if we ever got divorced he wanted it back! I can just imagine his horror if I had it melted down into something else now! *grins* So I guess if I want to stop wearing it on my finger I will just thread it onto a chain.

Taking off a wedding ring is a big step, I think, regardless of how the relationship ends. It shows our willingness to accept what is and move on to what will be. I'm not quite there yet, I still find my ring comforting and a tie to Ian. I'm a little envious of you being able to to step forward without yours. I will get there though!

[ohsochewy]

Not that I'm at all envious of your situation, but my relationship fizzled out a long time ago. You didn't choose to end your relationship. No timetable on your progress, but then again I suppose that could apply to me too.

And I can totally understand the not-melting-it-down thing! I actually have the ring (garnet?) that my grandma got from my step-grandpa. He was the only grandpa figure I had on that side of the family, and I probably got along better with him than my grandma! I was thinking that I might get the stone reset somehow, though.

*hugs*