Survival revival

[_kapoo_]

Okay, so survival is a bit of an exaggeration. I have made it through 3 weeks of grad school - less than two more to go and then some straggling final projects (that I will begin as soon as I'm done here) after. But my reward when I'm done? Perseids! Yes, I will be going up north with friends in a few weeks to behold the glory of shooting stars

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[mrgeddylee]

I don't know the issues between you and Ian, but since you did put question marks after some of your concerns...

When I broke up with qrssama, I just wasn't ready for the complexities of an adult relationship with an adult person. She had grown-up problems to deal with and I wasn't ready for them. If she'd tried to see me during that broken-up period, or if she'd tried to hard to hold on to me during the month we were "taking a break", I think it would have made it much harder for us to get back together. If he wants to be alone, and feels like you're not letting him, he may feel backed into a corner and try to find new and unpleasant ways to push you away.

My advice to you is to be as cool as you can manage if you happen to see him, but not to initiate anything. If worst comes to worst, you're beautiful and talented and other men will most assuredly come along.

[aerospcgrl]

...Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass. ...And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. ...With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. ...Strive to be happy. -Max Ehrmann

::hugs:: I don't have any words of my own... but these help me sometimes.

[rev_e]

Damn, I know how it goes. Sometimes the worst thing in the world that I can have is hope. If I know something is over and done with for good, then I can move on. If there's any chance that things could work out somehow, I'd wait until the stars burned out.

Excuse me, my cynicism and bitterness is hitting overdrive, just ignore me...

[earthfiregirl]

When I'm feeling like this, I usually think about it so much it kinda drives me crazy and I can't sleep. I don't recommend this. However, if that's where you are, it might help to write about it. Try to find your center and listen to your intuition. What do you really want? What is feasible? What is best for your soul growth?

You're right, we're not in control. Sometimes you're driving to Dearborn in a thunderstorm and get stuck in traffic and end up late for two plays:) However, we are in control of our reactions. You can move with the change or you can resist it. In the long run, it usually hurts a lot more to resist it.

I know that you will thrive, no matter what happens. I have a great deal of faith in you.

Get ready to run around on the beach and marinate in love! I've learned that it's a lot easier to get through these things when there are at least five beautiful women who want to snuggle with you by the campfire...

[_earthshine_]

Well for a full wealth of feedback, you may want to "friend only" this post, but that's your call.

Kapoo, I don't know what to say. Doing what's best can often sadden, hurt and otherwise suck eggs. It's even harder when what's best gets done to us, rather than by our own hand.

This too shall pass, indeed. You have more to look forward to than you can imagine. Have faith and have fun. It will come.

We love ya.