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80s_child

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May 30, 2009 19:03

Could someone please enlighten me on why this person would comment that I'm "fucked up in the head" to my recent rant about my ex? I try and try but only come up with that they just never cared much for me an wanted to be an asswipe. Or am I missing something obvious here ( Read more... )

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ric_leonhart May 31 2009, 02:42:40 UTC

Might be that this person has similar experiences with someone else and assume you're in the same category. Pretty far out there, if you ask me...

80s_child June 1 2009, 12:33:12 UTC

Yet I fail to see the logic behind this conclusion..

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80s_child July 21 2009, 01:29:12 UTC

First: I am sorry to displease you, that was never my intention...but I talk about him in public, since he disses ME in public (if you want, read the replies to Samuli Kauppila's "kesäflunssa status" on Facebook [which BTW is the FIRST time I ever replied with a poking comment, as earlier I have concentrated on plain debunking his BS claims without bullshit]). I know he talks shit to other people too, but that does not excuse or give him the right to spew shit at me. I am adamant about this ( ... )

80s_child July 21 2009, 01:41:00 UTC

of course, I meant "inferiority-complex".

On a side note: Honestly, I wanna get along with everyone, even him...so the only reason I (finally, after a few years' waiting) posted this was that he seriously pushed me to the last straw. I have no idea why (the only guess I have is that he's trying to get back at me because he sometime back was hurt by me because I left him), but it feels like he just wants to piss me off. I know that'd not a certain analysation, yet there are many occasions to back me up.

I'm sorry Heta, I definitely do not want to push you down, but I am just certain about this case.

:(

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poeticalpanther July 21 2009, 02:37:23 UTC

Honestly, my response would be simply to completely ignore his existence. He clearly gets a rise out of riling you up, getting a reaction from you, so the best approach (to my mind) is to deny him the reward for the bad behaviour. Treat him like a dog you want to train: when he behaves well, reward him. When he behaves badly, shun him. If he continues to behave badly, consider just not being around him. You don't have to waste your time and energy on someone who treats you so badly, whatever may have happened in the past.

The old relationship is over, neither of you gains by bringing it up again and again. Judge him now based on the way he is now: if he's not someone you find brings value to your life, then cut him out of it. If you do find value in knowing him, then you need to lay down some ground rules, about treating one another respectfully. If he can't hold to those, then bye-bye may be the only answer.

Hope that helps. :)

80s_child July 21 2009, 03:32:02 UTC

Thanks, that re-evaluated a lot of my predisposition that I had, yet I am just bugged by the comment that his current GF gave me, if you completelty read the post PLUS the comments (she usually defends me, she's pretty smart and sharp) concerning his relations to me. I would otherwise discern his words, yet I am wondering if I am just generally aliable (pardon for possible typos, please correct me, I AM rather drunk)

I used to ignore him, yet he provokes mconstantly...really....I ignored hk

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80s_child July 21 2009, 14:32:21 UTC

ööö...siis nyt selitän...mitä?

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cryingumbrella July 21 2009, 08:47:15 UTC

Hmmm ( ... )

80s_child July 21 2009, 14:55:09 UTC

Veronmaksaja. Millainen sädekehä leijuukaan koko sanan ympärillä. Se loistaa kuin katulamppu. Olla veronmaksaja pyhittää miltei kaiken. Se merkitsee ihmisarvoa, osallisuutta johonkin yliyksilölliseen, samalla tavalla kuin ehtoollinen on pala pyhästä.

Koetko itsesi olemaan pätevämpi kuin lääkärini ja sosiaalityöntekijäni analysoimaan todellista henkistä tilaani? Sä teit aivan saatanan väärin mua kohtaan ja se muokkasi nuoruuttani hyvin voimakkaasti, ja sinä ihmettelet miksen unohda sitä? Mä muistan sen paremmin koska sen imprintti mun elämään oli voimakkaampi kuin sun elämääsi. Mä en todellakaan halua kuulla susta mitään, silti postailet feissarissa kommentteihini paskapiikittelyllä kun koitan poistaa sut elämästäni. Toi on roikkuvaa jos mikään. Sä et yksinkertaisesti ole pätevä analysoimaan tilannettani koska olet oman vihasi ja vammasi vanki. Tääkin on vaan kieliposkessa hei, why so serious? :P

cryingumbrella July 21 2009, 15:12:44 UTC

Veronmaksaja, ja mun palkasta sun sossutukeen lähtee joka kuukausi rahaa jonka ansaitsen tekemällä niskalimassa duunia, mutta eipäs mennä sivuraiteille turhaan nyt tuon kanssa :) Jotain tämmöstä odotinkin takaisin, sillä joiltakin ihmisiltä vain ei voi saada iän mukaista keskustelua aikaiseksi. Valitettavasti ( ... )

80s_child July 21 2009, 16:27:58 UTC

a) en tehnyt tätä sun selkäs takana. Vai olisiko mun pitäny tyyliin soittaa sulle ja sanoa et "hei, postasin juuri vilpittömän ja rehellisen postin joka koskee sinuakin"?

b) en ole koskaan ollut tyytyväinen tähän tilaan. En tiedä miksi Heta sulle näin olisi sanonut, mutta itse olen vain ollut huojentunut että olen saanut breikkiä koska sitä tarvitsin, raskaan lapsuuden ja nuoruuden jälkeen mutta silti haluan takaisin normielämään. Ei tämmönen vegeily ole mukavaa pidemmän päälle.

Mun mielestä itseäni satuttavien asioiden muistaminen (ei muistelu) ei ole alentuvaa eikä edes tahallista. Mä vain muistan ne koska ne joskus satuttivat minua. En koe että olisin mitenkään kypsymättömästi tässä käyttäytynyt sillä en tosiaankaan tarkoittanut mitään pahaa tällä kommentilla. Halusin vain puolustaa itseäni ja aihettani.

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