Dismayed

[4ofspades]

 I just learned that there is a rumor floating around about me (among some of my coworkers) that I have a crush on a married male colleague, whom I see perhaps once a year (if that often) at company functions.  I'm still trying to decide whether to be amused or disgusted.  Why is it so widely assumed in US culture that if a man is single, he must

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BE AMUSED

[kichisama]

those stupid cunts are probably just mad cause your pretty and they're probably fat, ugly hogs that started the rumor.

They either started it out of A:

Jealousy, not only because of the above reasons, but maybe they tried to hit on this guy and he blew them off and now they're pissed.

OR

B: they are total fucking losers with no lives whose only joy comes from trying to bring others down to their sub-human level.

I cannot fucking stand skanks who start rumors they are the lowest scum (well ok pedophiles and rapists are the lowest actually) but you know what I mean. I'm telling you these whores are jealous and if I were you I'd have to be kinda amused.

and you can always look at it this way: “The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.”

i suppose.

try not to worry about what stupid bitches say because after all they are stupid bitches and not worth your time or consideration

Re: BE AMUSED

[4ofspades]

You are too sweet, and I appreciate the ego-stoking. ;D

You're right -- I guess it *is* better to be talked about than not. No one wants to end up like the guy who died in his cubicle, but was left there for 5 days because no one even noticed the guy when he was alive. Yikes.

[hope_assassin]

I guess it's in people's nature to spread stupid rumours when their lives are bleak. I think you shouldn't pay attention to them when they're talking about you like that. No use to have yourself killing precious nerve cells over idiots' imbecility, methinks.

[4ofspades]

You make a really good point -- that happy people usually don't participate in the fabrication of rumors... just people who are so unhappy with their own lives that Schadenfreude is the only joy they know.

[4ofspades]

I've been told that in Europe, people are much more grown up about men and women being friends... namely that they *can* be friends, and people aren't so quick to slap a salacious label on it. Sorry to hear you've been through something similar. Well, I guess I'd rather be on the end of the scale where one is the subject being discussed, rather than on the other end of the scale where the discussees reside, because that would mean I didn't have a whole lot of happiness in my life.

[daylight_broke]

People who have miserable lives enjoy spreading ridiculous gossip. Pathetic losers. If they're spreading rumors about you, then it's likely they're also secretly spreading rumors about other people at your workplace.

Take comfort in the fact that you're better than those gossipmongers. If the situation at work gets too uncomfortable with these gossipmongers, talk to your supervisor about the situation. You deserve to work in a place free from malicious gossip.

[4ofspades]

I hadn't thought about that before, but you make a really valid point -- that I'm likely not the only person that these people are talking about. Part of me takes comfort in this. Knowing there are others that bear the brunt of these ridiculous allegations makes it a little less personal... I just happened to be in their target range at the right time, so they fired at me. One day when I'm rich and famous, I'll just have to send them all notes that read, "Nyah nyah nyah, nyah nyah, nyaaaaaaaaaah!"

;) Ha!

[crystalstars_88]

i hate when single men become sexy bachelors and playboys who are sowing their wild oats, while single women become lonely freaks, old maids, spinsters, frigid bitches, or desperate sluts. like society thinks something is wrong with them and evolution is weeding them out so single women can't reproduce and pass on their dateless genes

[4ofspades]

Isn't it sad how quick women are to turn on each other? It's very disheartening. I appreciate your kind words of support. :) I guess this is probably something that all of us will go through at one point or another.

Sorry to hear that you're getting pressured to get married so soon out of college! Ugh. Do what's right for YOU. I'm in my late thirties, single, and I wouldn't have it any other way, because I'm not going to compromise who I am, even if that renders me somehow "less-than" in society's eyes, because I'm not one half of a duo. I like being able to do what I want, when I want, no matter how eccentric. I'm wearing my cookie monster pajamas right now, and no one can tell me not to wear them. :)