Comments | 20sknitters: thanks for breaking up with me, here's yr scarf

robotrobotlove in 20sknitters

thanks for breaking up with me, here's yr scarf

Dec 03, 2007 10:53

I just finished knitting a fabulous Danica scarf for my boyfriend the same day he dumped me (& he did it online... ewwwww).
( good thing it's going to a better place now )

scarf, fo

Comments 29

carbonish December 3 2007, 20:00:57 UTC

oh my...

well, it's his loss! the scarf is really pretty, so I'd be tempted to keep it for myself. I agree with everyone, though--do not give it to him.

katreva December 3 2007, 20:33:39 UTC

I recently got dumped too. So I am in ultra-sympathizing mode. I just wanted to say be strong, definitely don't give him the scarf, aaand pretty hair. As far as knitting goes: looks awesome! I like the way it came out with the variegated yarn.

orion_smiles December 3 2007, 20:51:28 UTC

Beautiful hair and a lovely scarf. I think a swap or gifting it to someone else who would really like it is prolly the best way to go.

sprytaen December 3 2007, 21:07:56 UTC

I'm going to be different..

So, I guess it depends on how your relationship is going to be from this point forward. It doesn't sound like it, but some people have good breakups where they retain friendships. I, personally, am friends with all but one of my exes - and that's because he's an exhusband - so I wouldn't have issue with giving the scarf to them. You know?

But, if you're not going to be friends after this, meh. Keep it. If you're anything like me when I was dying my hair, the scarf will eventually not clash with it. :)

free_the_wombat December 4 2007, 16:11:29 UTC

To a point I'd agree with this, as I'm friends with most of my exes as well. I was actually in a similar situation, and ended up giving the recently-finished project (an afghan) to the guy anyway. But he did it online, which is just low. He doesn't deserve something you put a lot of effort into if he can't even put effort into breaking up with you.

sprytaen December 4 2007, 18:31:16 UTC

It depends on the relationship though. How did they meet? Were they both big internet people? My husband and I lived in different cities when we met and so when we weren't together, we spent a lot of time chatting over the internet. To this day, if I have something really hard to tell him sometimes I'll chat him up, even if he's sitting right next to me. Somehow, it makes talking about something hard easier.

*shrug*

Then again, if he was just being a coward.. NO SCARF FOR HIM!

free_the_wombat December 4 2007, 19:10:00 UTC

My boyfriend and I live in different cities, and the majority of our interaction is over the internet, so I'm not saying the internet is bad. I agree that sometimes it's easier to chat about things online, given the ability to measure your words and think about and revise what you're going to say. But I guess I'm old school - if you're going to break up with someone, at least give them the courtesy of a phone call.

aourai December 3 2007, 21:22:33 UTC

I feel your pain, I really do. I actually crochetted a guy an afghan and we broke up about 95% through it. I gave it to him anyway and he tried to use it as leverage when he wanted me back later on. So kudos for the willpower not to give it to him.

A swap might be good. Send friend vibes into it and swap it with someone. I think a cozy pair of comforting socks or perhaps a knit set of danglyparts to angrily smack against things now and again.