Work Rant

[127fascination]

My current boss was a colleague that was recently promoted ahead of me. We have been on an identical career paths for the last 10 years with many competitive stages but I was always a little ahead of him, that is until recently. When our department head left, we both put in for the job. Instead of having one of us leave when the other got the job,

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[swansister]

How annoying and frustrating!

You can love the job but that doesn't mean the job loves you!

[nakedcomixguy]

Start planning your escape now! It sounds like you already know where this train is headed; so you better get off the tracks! He is not going to change and it sounds like the company has made it clear that they value him more than you. Sometimes escape is your only option.

It sounds like you have it worse than me. It will take at least 6 months or longer to find a new job on average. So I would seriously start looking now. I'm currently in a job with a good boss and a decent company. But the pay is low and there is no room to advance. So I'm looking for the next move to make. There is no way they can offer me more money or change of position. So I have started my search now. At least I can hang in there until I find something better without worrying too much about my blood pressure. You need to get moving before they throw you under the train or things get so crazy you feel like throwing yourself.

Re: You can love the job but that doesn't mean the job loves you!

[127fascination]

Nah. I won't throw myself under a train but it certainly possible that they could throw me under one.

[mrj15]

Start looking now. In my previous life, it was standard to move the newly promoted person to another work area in cases like you describe, specifically to avoid the problems you are now experiencing. I don't know much about your job, but it sounds like that was not feasible and now you are having to deal with it. I would try talking to him first, expressing what you expressed here in a nice, but firm way. He will either back off (maybe as a new manager he doesn't know how his actions are being perceived), or not (maybe he is just an a**hole and not likely to change). Either way, start looking for a new job now. If he backs off you can stop looking. If not, you will be a couple of months closer to finding a job than you would be if you waited till January to start looking. As someone else said, it usually takes a few months to find a new job. Maybe if word gets back to him that you are putting feelers out there and he might lose you, he will get the message.
Michele

[127fascination]

Actually, I had a conversation with him several months ago when he first started to micromanage me. I warned him that this might push me away and he seemed to behave for awhile. Some of his claiming ownership of my work may be to hedge his bet with the Japanese in case I do leave he can take over.

I don't think he can change and don't think another talk will be worth it. We actually can get along, can get cool science done and can have fun, but in the end he can't help who he is. Its a lot like a dysfunctional relationship and I am the wife that keeps threatening to leave but then changes her mind.

[127fascination]

After I posted this I remembered that my boss has had many run ins with his wife lately where she has threatened to break up. He gives this very personal info to me as a way to bond I guess and presents it as a fallout of his working too much, but I got to wonder how he treats her if he is such a control freak at work.
Ouch, I am his OTHER wife :(

[madgypsy]

Well, I'd be happy to help with a "Bend Over" oil or otherwise...but in the best case, I agree, you'd probably do better in a better place that values you and your work. Blessings on you!

[127fascination]

The trick is to remind the company of my value and not let him take credit for my work.

[nightshade_feri]

I am very sorry to hear this, it really stinks. Good vibes coming your way for the best possible solution, whatever that may be.