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I came to the realization today that it's okay to care for someone, even if they don't care the same amount in return. After all, if it was required for someone to love you first before you could love them, we'd have a rather large logistics problem on our hands.
When you truly care for someone, you accept them as they are, faults and all. By demanding they reciprocate your favor, you are in effect attempting to change who and what they are. That's not right, and that's not love. That's selfishness in a romanticized guise. If your collective love is meant to be, it will come about on its own terms, in its own time, when both people are ready and able to handle the emotionality. If one or both can't, then it isn't actually real. I am not saying to stay in a masochistic relationship. I've been there, and I won't do it again. Shared regard is a requirement to make a real, committed relationship work. But until then...
What I will do is allow myself to be in the moment, to feel the sweet rush of passion and sing into the wind, and not worry about what the object of my affection may or may not feel in return. It's a singular experience that no one else can truly share with you. No matter how close or "in love" you may be, the other person cannot be inside your head, cannot feel the exact same thing as you. That's okay. Someone who thinks the exact same as myself would be very frightening to me, since I alone know what this head is capable of creating.
Now, excuse me while I grin like an idiot.
When you truly care for someone, you accept them as they are, faults and all. By demanding they reciprocate your favor, you are in effect attempting to change who and what they are. That's not right, and that's not love. That's selfishness in a romanticized guise. If your collective love is meant to be, it will come about on its own terms, in its own time, when both people are ready and able to handle the emotionality. If one or both can't, then it isn't actually real. I am not saying to stay in a masochistic relationship. I've been there, and I won't do it again. Shared regard is a requirement to make a real, committed relationship work. But until then...
What I will do is allow myself to be in the moment, to feel the sweet rush of passion and sing into the wind, and not worry about what the object of my affection may or may not feel in return. It's a singular experience that no one else can truly share with you. No matter how close or "in love" you may be, the other person cannot be inside your head, cannot feel the exact same thing as you. That's okay. Someone who thinks the exact same as myself would be very frightening to me, since I alone know what this head is capable of creating.
Now, excuse me while I grin like an idiot.