Trio of things...
Well, this is a new experience for me on LiveJournal.
I have someone reading my journal who is choosing to remain anonymous. What little information has been provided to me leaves me in the dark, as it does not fit anyone I know by other means. She has said that she knows of the situation surrounding book_of_pain. However, seeing what little I was actually involved with that situation, I find myself a little wary of her intentions.
For now, I will wait to see what this person has in mind, and will not disable anonymous comments. I find myself fascinated by this developement.
In other news, I landed a freelance web development job that I can do in my spare time.
Addi can now spell simple words. Of course, some of her attempts at spelling are not quite right. For example, when she spelled "Papa" she spelled it "P - O - O" which resulted in a major giggling fit. But, considering she is four years old... yeah.
Cynthia is once again asking for money. Now that I have a new job, I will be sending her out child support, and will try to catch up. But the fact of the matter is that considering everything in our history, her asking me for money is a bit, well, antagonistic for lack of a better word. When we were married, money was a source of major arguments. Either I was working and supporting the family, during which time she pretty much took time off and did what she wanted(Including a vacation after being unemployed for nearly a year. I stayed at home working while she partied for two weeks, including violating the few rules we had governing our open marriage); or, when I was unemployed, she would demand that I get a job, up to and including moving out for a month rather than provide the same kind of support she would later take for granted.
Now, she is unemployed and living in Iowa, not a half hour away from her boyfriend who makes considerably more than I do. She informed me rather subtly that she could borrow money from him. Considering that she has been dating him for two and a half years, you'd think by now they would be living together married, or something. Of course, I do not know the nature of her relationship with him. Considering her relationship with me when we were together, I am surprised he hasn't been asked to buy her a car, a house, and expensive jewelery.
Some of you may think that I am complaining about paying child support. Some people get pissed about this issue. As a matter of fact, someone who was less than kind about it recently sent me an email saying, "I'm not sorry for what I said and if you don't want to email me back then don't."
First of all, Addi will get her money. You do not need to be concerned with that. There are so many things that you do not know about the situation that it would be better if you didn't step in and take a moral stand on what little information you do have.
Secondly, Cynthia left the state illegally. The court kind of schluffed it off, but the fact of the matter was that what she did was a Class C misdemeanor. And considering the lame excuse she gave, it was obvious that she had two purposes for leaving the state, and neither of them were the reason she gave me. She wanted to make it difficult for me to be a father to Addi, and she wanted to be closer to her boyfriend.
Third, I am doing the best I can with what I've got. If you don't like it, you don't need to be around me. Having people you consider to be friends blame you because you do not have the money to pay child support (let alone rent, money for a car, or even clothes for work) is neither helpful nor friendly. Now that I do have the money, I will pay, and catch up. If you do not act as a friend towards me, I do not consider you to be a friend. End of story.
Moving on...
indy_bbw did an incredibly brave thing last night. I am not going to detail it here, but I do want to say I am VERY proud of her. I hope she writes about it.
More later. Have to get back to work
I have someone reading my journal who is choosing to remain anonymous. What little information has been provided to me leaves me in the dark, as it does not fit anyone I know by other means. She has said that she knows of the situation surrounding book_of_pain. However, seeing what little I was actually involved with that situation, I find myself a little wary of her intentions.
For now, I will wait to see what this person has in mind, and will not disable anonymous comments. I find myself fascinated by this developement.
In other news, I landed a freelance web development job that I can do in my spare time.
Addi can now spell simple words. Of course, some of her attempts at spelling are not quite right. For example, when she spelled "Papa" she spelled it "P - O - O" which resulted in a major giggling fit. But, considering she is four years old... yeah.
Cynthia is once again asking for money. Now that I have a new job, I will be sending her out child support, and will try to catch up. But the fact of the matter is that considering everything in our history, her asking me for money is a bit, well, antagonistic for lack of a better word. When we were married, money was a source of major arguments. Either I was working and supporting the family, during which time she pretty much took time off and did what she wanted(Including a vacation after being unemployed for nearly a year. I stayed at home working while she partied for two weeks, including violating the few rules we had governing our open marriage); or, when I was unemployed, she would demand that I get a job, up to and including moving out for a month rather than provide the same kind of support she would later take for granted.
Now, she is unemployed and living in Iowa, not a half hour away from her boyfriend who makes considerably more than I do. She informed me rather subtly that she could borrow money from him. Considering that she has been dating him for two and a half years, you'd think by now they would be living together married, or something. Of course, I do not know the nature of her relationship with him. Considering her relationship with me when we were together, I am surprised he hasn't been asked to buy her a car, a house, and expensive jewelery.
Some of you may think that I am complaining about paying child support. Some people get pissed about this issue. As a matter of fact, someone who was less than kind about it recently sent me an email saying, "I'm not sorry for what I said and if you don't want to email me back then don't."
First of all, Addi will get her money. You do not need to be concerned with that. There are so many things that you do not know about the situation that it would be better if you didn't step in and take a moral stand on what little information you do have.
Secondly, Cynthia left the state illegally. The court kind of schluffed it off, but the fact of the matter was that what she did was a Class C misdemeanor. And considering the lame excuse she gave, it was obvious that she had two purposes for leaving the state, and neither of them were the reason she gave me. She wanted to make it difficult for me to be a father to Addi, and she wanted to be closer to her boyfriend.
Third, I am doing the best I can with what I've got. If you don't like it, you don't need to be around me. Having people you consider to be friends blame you because you do not have the money to pay child support (let alone rent, money for a car, or even clothes for work) is neither helpful nor friendly. Now that I do have the money, I will pay, and catch up. If you do not act as a friend towards me, I do not consider you to be a friend. End of story.
Moving on...
indy_bbw did an incredibly brave thing last night. I am not going to detail it here, but I do want to say I am VERY proud of her. I hope she writes about it.
More later. Have to get back to work