"The opposite of compassion is not hatred, it's indifference."
If drinking from the same bottle is indirect kissing, isn't using a public toilet indirect butt contact?
Today I had my kanji and grammar exams, and that's all of this years classes over and done with. The kanji exam I kind of aced, even after zero reading, but the grammar one went straight to the dogs. I just drew a massive blank. I'll take it again on January 15th.
So, I've been thinking about male rape again. There seems to be a tentative consensus on male rape (and indeed, rape in general) being motivated by desire to assert power, release aggression and control feelings of helplessness, unless both victim and perpetrator are homosexual, in which case the motivation may be sexual. But trying to figure out what in BL constitutes as homosexual rape is like something really difficult (suddenly I can't produce an appropriate simile). I mean, some characters can be identified as homosexual in orientation, but even then a lot of these acts obviously aren't motivated by sexual desire.
In fact, I remember reading years and years ago, that only something like 5% of all sexual activity between homosexual males includes penile anal penetration. Whereas it constitues about 99,9% of sexual activity in BL, unless you count all the frottage, fingering and oral sex usually preceding anal penetration as separate sexual acts. But I guess no one would. From the top of my head I can actually name a story that featured intercrural instead of anal sex, so I'm not saying all sex is exclusively anal.
You know what I also think is generally anal? Rape. I don't have any data on it, but in terms of dominance, violence and denigration, how could rapists better exercise their power over their victims, by forcibly fondling them?
Sadly, because of what I've hypothesized before, I can't suddenly hypothesize that these high concentrations of anal sex have any correlation. It wouldn't make any sense anyway. But I like hypothesizing.
In "other" news, now that I'm actually going to have a schedule for my wild Japan adventure, I checked the stats on maybe going to see my lady love Nao for realz (because I'm all talk, really), and what-ho, Tokubetsushitsu does not offer its sweet soapy services to foreign devils. No explanation is given, and although in my initial shock I surmised that it may be common practise in high end soap lands, after an hour or so of surfing the sites of other high end institutions I've found no indication of this being the case.
I wonder if there's ground for a law suit. Denying foreigners Naos embrace must be against some sort of equal opportunity thingamajig and I consider my human rights violated.
Japanese men, or at least the variety that frequents soap lands, are very insecure about their masculinity. They don't want any foreign men soiling their soap ladies, and they don't want their sloppy seconds. Secretly I believe they're afraid of the girls losing respect after finding out what "a real man" is like.
Jesus, those guys are such dickheads. I mean, they have to prop their failing machismo by writing crap like "so and so has too long legs, so it's difficult to do her from behind" (no she hasn't, you're just a sorry midget of a man), "so and sos breasts are so big that rubbing them makes my hands numb" (no they're not, maybe you should get some muscle in your pathetic skinny body, loser), or "when I went to have cheeze curry, I remembered the smell of so and sos snatch and couldn't eat the cheeze curry" (NO, CHEEZE CURRY EATING PIECES OF HUMAN WASTE SHOULDN'T BE LET NEAR ANYONES SLICE OF PIE!).
It honestly almost makes me wish I hadn't learned japanese so I wouldn't have to suffer the smug idiocy of these people. Kinda like that Danish prince once said that he wished he'd never learned to write when he had to sign some sort of treaty...
Today I had my kanji and grammar exams, and that's all of this years classes over and done with. The kanji exam I kind of aced, even after zero reading, but the grammar one went straight to the dogs. I just drew a massive blank. I'll take it again on January 15th.
So, I've been thinking about male rape again. There seems to be a tentative consensus on male rape (and indeed, rape in general) being motivated by desire to assert power, release aggression and control feelings of helplessness, unless both victim and perpetrator are homosexual, in which case the motivation may be sexual. But trying to figure out what in BL constitutes as homosexual rape is like something really difficult (suddenly I can't produce an appropriate simile). I mean, some characters can be identified as homosexual in orientation, but even then a lot of these acts obviously aren't motivated by sexual desire.
In fact, I remember reading years and years ago, that only something like 5% of all sexual activity between homosexual males includes penile anal penetration. Whereas it constitues about 99,9% of sexual activity in BL, unless you count all the frottage, fingering and oral sex usually preceding anal penetration as separate sexual acts. But I guess no one would. From the top of my head I can actually name a story that featured intercrural instead of anal sex, so I'm not saying all sex is exclusively anal.
You know what I also think is generally anal? Rape. I don't have any data on it, but in terms of dominance, violence and denigration, how could rapists better exercise their power over their victims, by forcibly fondling them?
Sadly, because of what I've hypothesized before, I can't suddenly hypothesize that these high concentrations of anal sex have any correlation. It wouldn't make any sense anyway. But I like hypothesizing.
In "other" news, now that I'm actually going to have a schedule for my wild Japan adventure, I checked the stats on maybe going to see my lady love Nao for realz (because I'm all talk, really), and what-ho, Tokubetsushitsu does not offer its sweet soapy services to foreign devils. No explanation is given, and although in my initial shock I surmised that it may be common practise in high end soap lands, after an hour or so of surfing the sites of other high end institutions I've found no indication of this being the case.
I wonder if there's ground for a law suit. Denying foreigners Naos embrace must be against some sort of equal opportunity thingamajig and I consider my human rights violated.
Japanese men, or at least the variety that frequents soap lands, are very insecure about their masculinity. They don't want any foreign men soiling their soap ladies, and they don't want their sloppy seconds. Secretly I believe they're afraid of the girls losing respect after finding out what "a real man" is like.
Jesus, those guys are such dickheads. I mean, they have to prop their failing machismo by writing crap like "so and so has too long legs, so it's difficult to do her from behind" (no she hasn't, you're just a sorry midget of a man), "so and sos breasts are so big that rubbing them makes my hands numb" (no they're not, maybe you should get some muscle in your pathetic skinny body, loser), or "when I went to have cheeze curry, I remembered the smell of so and sos snatch and couldn't eat the cheeze curry" (NO, CHEEZE CURRY EATING PIECES OF HUMAN WASTE SHOULDN'T BE LET NEAR ANYONES SLICE OF PIE!).
It honestly almost makes me wish I hadn't learned japanese so I wouldn't have to suffer the smug idiocy of these people. Kinda like that Danish prince once said that he wished he'd never learned to write when he had to sign some sort of treaty...