How can you tell if the man your mother is dating online is a scammer?
Originally posted by ashchan01 (AKA The Lusty Wench) at How can you tell if the man your mother is dating online is a scammer?
My mom had met this guy, named Michael Goodman, from Illinois on Pogo.com in August. I am suspicious of the whole thing for several reasons:
1) She's never actually met him, and he is not willing to come to our city to meet her or even give her a round-trip ticket to go there (He claims that he's too busy working). Instead, he has been talking about packing up all her stuff and moving her there by next year. Not even four months into their relationship, which started almost as soon as they started talking online, and he is already talking about getting married in the coming summer. It seems really rushed to me, especially because he has only talked to her on the phone and online.
2) Not only does my mom not live in the same state as him, she also is 16 years older than him. The fact that he is choosing to date her, as opposed to someone in his age and area, boggles my mind, especially since she is in her fifties and he in his late thirties. On top of that, she is mentally ill, and I am certain he is aware of this. Not exactly typical behavior.
3) The information she's told me about him sounds very similar to her three previous online relationships, where they all turned out to be scammers. She says she has talked to his family and that they are completely supportive, yet she had talked to her last e-boyfriend's family. He claims to be a widower with a young child, and so did her last guy. Of course, her last boyfriend had asked her for a $300 money order, and that tipped me off as to his game. She still did not suspect anything until I and my grandfather had convinced her of the truth, granddad having done some investigating into his background.
4) He apparently has dated other women online, one of which cussed my mother out on Pogo and was trying to cause problems for her.
I'm really worried. I love my mother, and my gut feeling tells me that something is really off on his end of the situation. I suspect that he will try to take advantage of her, and don't know what I can do to find out the truth about this guy. Does anyone have any ideas? Any information would be appreciated, especially if anyone has heard of e-scammers in Illinois before. My email is ashchan01@hotmail.com. If you guys need more information, I would be happy to email it to you.
ZeldaQueen: Guys, if anyone has any information on this, please share. If you can't reach The Lusty Wench's original post or if her e-mail isn't working, tell me and I'll pass it on to her.
Thank you, everyone.
My mom had met this guy, named Michael Goodman, from Illinois on Pogo.com in August. I am suspicious of the whole thing for several reasons:
1) She's never actually met him, and he is not willing to come to our city to meet her or even give her a round-trip ticket to go there (He claims that he's too busy working). Instead, he has been talking about packing up all her stuff and moving her there by next year. Not even four months into their relationship, which started almost as soon as they started talking online, and he is already talking about getting married in the coming summer. It seems really rushed to me, especially because he has only talked to her on the phone and online.
2) Not only does my mom not live in the same state as him, she also is 16 years older than him. The fact that he is choosing to date her, as opposed to someone in his age and area, boggles my mind, especially since she is in her fifties and he in his late thirties. On top of that, she is mentally ill, and I am certain he is aware of this. Not exactly typical behavior.
3) The information she's told me about him sounds very similar to her three previous online relationships, where they all turned out to be scammers. She says she has talked to his family and that they are completely supportive, yet she had talked to her last e-boyfriend's family. He claims to be a widower with a young child, and so did her last guy. Of course, her last boyfriend had asked her for a $300 money order, and that tipped me off as to his game. She still did not suspect anything until I and my grandfather had convinced her of the truth, granddad having done some investigating into his background.
4) He apparently has dated other women online, one of which cussed my mother out on Pogo and was trying to cause problems for her.
I'm really worried. I love my mother, and my gut feeling tells me that something is really off on his end of the situation. I suspect that he will try to take advantage of her, and don't know what I can do to find out the truth about this guy. Does anyone have any ideas? Any information would be appreciated, especially if anyone has heard of e-scammers in Illinois before. My email is ashchan01@hotmail.com. If you guys need more information, I would be happy to email it to you.
ZeldaQueen: Guys, if anyone has any information on this, please share. If you can't reach The Lusty Wench's original post or if her e-mail isn't working, tell me and I'll pass it on to her.
Thank you, everyone.