I don't know...

[zeechawan]

I'm posting an entry.

Well....here goes.

I have to go to work soon. Work is killing my back everyday now (mostly the right side, I need to be more ambidextrous).
There's a new girl at work. It's kinda nice having more women around my job. I have to admit I miss the girl talk. I think I'm being way too submerged into guy talk that I'm almost finding

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[seroci]

It is kinda little rude to spring that on you pretty much last minute. As for the "meanness" of his friends - that may just be an excuse to keep his love life separate from his friend life. Some guys need that space, guys they can escape to without their girlfriends. We girlfriends don't always like it, but...yeah. When Josh visits his best friend up in the Brainerd area he pretty much always goes alone, 'cause he needs his "guy time." Trying to convince you that you "can't handle them" or that they're too "mean" or "blunt" for you is definitely not a good way to keep those two aspects of his life separate, but he may be afraid to say he just wants to keep these two aspects of his life separate. Many guys are like that.

I know you love him lots, but it sounds like Spencer just needs to mature a little bit more. Remember that guys are often a couple years behind their actual age, and he's a couple years younger than you, so he's, like, four years more immature! A 20-year-old guy is definitely not "full-grown" and has a lot of learning to do, and you may just have to be patient as he learns these lessons, even if he's not that accepting of them or seems to learn them slowly. Josh definitely has things that he's a little immature over, and so do I, and mostly we just try to be patient as we each slowly learn.

As his girlfriend, even if he wants to keep you separate from his friends, your feelings should be a priority. He can spend time away from you and still be mindful how you feel about certain things. This is my greatest concern, that he doesn't always treat you like a priority. It's easy to become complacent and take a loved one for granted, even without trying or noticing. Hopefully as he matures he'll realize how important you are and more consistently treat you as such.

[zeechawan]

Yeah, I'm aware of that whole "guys night out" thing. But this was not just a "guys night out". It was at one of his friends' parent's house where they're throwing a party. I would understand a "guys night out" but not a party. That just seems mean to just want to go to a party without me.
"Guy time" is fine. I like girl time too. (Though, I can live without it. I haven't had one in a long while.) But the fight we had after I posted this didn't help either.

I'm still a little peeved to tell the truth.

He even called one of his best friends to ask him if I was over-reacting. And of course the friend is going to agree with him because he's not telling him the reason why I'm mad. He just thinks I'm being clingy.

Anyway, bad points aside. He did cancel going to the party (though I did not ask for that) because he saw how mad it was making me.

But the fight did NOT help. I have to clean it up a bit, because it was not a very successful conclusion.

(Oh! And it's not that he wants to keep me separate from his friends. I know his best friends pretty well. It's just these new friends because he thinks he can be more himself around them than me or something....like I said, gotta clean it up a bit.)