100 Things Challenge #29
Today my much-anticipated workshop in suggestopedia was cancelled. Well, acutally, it´s a bad thing because it would have been a wonderful supplement to my learning coaching skills. On the other hand, it´s bringing an unexpected day off which is VERY GOOD :-) I have time to organize my stuff, do some things I had planned for next week, etc. NO, NO CHORSE!!!
I had a stressful week. Not so much because of my amount of work more in an emotional way. On Monday, I had a preliminary talk with a coachee and his mom. He is a really clever and bright 9-year-old boy but his mom is a histerical, overambitious and (more important) totally frustrated mother. She always talked to him in a ironic or/and derogative way. I more than once clenched my fists during the talk.
One day later, she wrote me a letter (email) which was so awful, so bad and sad it makes me wonder what must have happened to this woman. She actually insists on giving away her son because he bears the blame of all the trouble she has with her daughter, husband, friends and neighbours (can you believe that?). How frustrated, desperate can someone be to blame her 9-year-old son?
I´ve confered with some colleagues about it and they´ve recommended to leave the coaching be and encourage the mother to request for help in professional family-therapy institutions, which I did.
I don´t get any response yet, but I hope she will be reasonable enough to get support to eventually help and heal her family. There is always that little boy in my mind which has to carry such a heavy burden in his young age.
I guess, I´ve experienced the "dark"- side of my new job, which happens, due to the affirmations of my colleagues, really, really rarely. Hopefully!
LOVe, Heike
I had a stressful week. Not so much because of my amount of work more in an emotional way. On Monday, I had a preliminary talk with a coachee and his mom. He is a really clever and bright 9-year-old boy but his mom is a histerical, overambitious and (more important) totally frustrated mother. She always talked to him in a ironic or/and derogative way. I more than once clenched my fists during the talk.
One day later, she wrote me a letter (email) which was so awful, so bad and sad it makes me wonder what must have happened to this woman. She actually insists on giving away her son because he bears the blame of all the trouble she has with her daughter, husband, friends and neighbours (can you believe that?). How frustrated, desperate can someone be to blame her 9-year-old son?
I´ve confered with some colleagues about it and they´ve recommended to leave the coaching be and encourage the mother to request for help in professional family-therapy institutions, which I did.
I don´t get any response yet, but I hope she will be reasonable enough to get support to eventually help and heal her family. There is always that little boy in my mind which has to carry such a heavy burden in his young age.
I guess, I´ve experienced the "dark"- side of my new job, which happens, due to the affirmations of my colleagues, really, really rarely. Hopefully!
LOVe, Heike