This is probably not very coherent ;-)angelislingtonJune 5 2011, 21:00:33 UTC
As usual when you post Important Things Wot I Have Realized About Myself I relate to this so much. :)
I still find it extremely difficult, if not impossible, to have sexual feelings about anyone, rather than pre-pubescent style crushes devoid of lustful desires. When I see attractive people I swoon and sigh and dream of hugging, maybe kissing them, maybe some frottage if I'm feeling particularly randy, but otherwise it's all totally innocent. Especially as most of the people I fancy are unattainable fictional characters or celebrities. Or celebrities playing fictional characters. ;-)
My husband really is the first person I've ever been sexually attracted to (which I'm sure is a relief for him) although I still feel disinterested in a lot of things. I still feel awkward and sexually immature most of the time, and try not to berate myself for being a 'child' who can only swoon pathetically over the people she likes. :/ (Thankfully I have someone I love now, as well as silly crushes, but it's still taking quite a bit of time getting used to it. :)
I'm so glad you've come to accept yourself and be happy with the way you are - which is wonderful, by the way. :) *hugs you all up* ♥
Re: This is probably not very coherent ;-)yvesilenaJune 6 2011, 06:00:36 UTC
*hugs back* It's really good to know I'm not the only one! I do wonder if future generations will find the 21st-century stereotype that all sane adults want oodles of hot sex as daft as the Victorian stereotype that nice girls never enjoy it.
I still find it extremely difficult, if not impossible, to have sexual feelings about anyone, rather than pre-pubescent style crushes devoid of lustful desires. When I see attractive people I swoon and sigh and dream of hugging, maybe kissing them, maybe some frottage if I'm feeling particularly randy, but otherwise it's all totally innocent. Especially as most of the people I fancy are unattainable fictional characters or celebrities. Or celebrities playing fictional characters. ;-)
My husband really is the first person I've ever been sexually attracted to (which I'm sure is a relief for him) although I still feel disinterested in a lot of things. I still feel awkward and sexually immature most of the time, and try not to berate myself for being a 'child' who can only swoon pathetically over the people she likes. :/ (Thankfully I have someone I love now, as well as silly crushes, but it's still taking quite a bit of time getting used to it. :)
I'm so glad you've come to accept yourself and be happy with the way you are - which is wonderful, by the way. :) *hugs you all up* ♥
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